I am terrified to die while my children are so young (2 and 6 months) I am afraid that my husband won't be able to take care of them, I am afraid that they will have a screwed up life, and that my wishes for them won't happen- be happy, protected, loved, secure. I keep being asked to go on mini trips (day trips to wonderland and such) and i keep turning them down because I am scared that I will die on the way and never see my kids again. Is there anything that I can do to get over this???? I am only 25, but was in a really bad car accident when i was 17.
2007-07-31 07:10:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
tkquestion .. you're first line is soooo true.. i am just like the walking dead, i worry about everything, my mind races, i can think of about 100 things that can go wrong every time i do something, and yet i also am not afraid "to" die, I am just afraid of dieing, of not being around. Is anyone from ontario or canada.. do you know if OHIP covers counselling???
2007-07-31 13:09:48 · update #1
As far as I am concerned, you are not afraid of death.... you are already dead!
The purpose of life for me is to enjoy every minute of it. Instead, you are suffering every minute of it from what hasn't happened yet, yet suffering from it every minute as if it has already happened.
As you already know, this is very irrational and counter productive. It is also self feeding.
You will probably benefit from good counsel ling. There is no shame in asking for help and going to counsel ling. Most health insurance will pay for it just as if you went to a regular doctor. Psychologists aren't MDs. They won't do surgeries and they won't write prescriptions. They will help you deal with your problem.
It will be A LOT of work but if you pair up with a good psychologist, it will be time and money well spent. Good luck.
2007-07-31 07:23:25 · answer #1 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just accept that death could happen to any of us. Stop looking at death in a bad way. It could happen, but is it likely? No. It's not. You just have to ignore it and try to have a good time. Show your kids love and support and don't worry about anything else. If you did die (which again is very unlikely) atleast you'd die without any regrets. You know you told your children you love them and you had a good time with your life. Just don't let it bother you. The chances of dying is very unlikely. Just live life and enjoy what you have. Try to spend most of your time making your kids happy. If you're afraid they will have screwed up lives, do something about it!
2007-07-31 14:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by nckmcgwn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Quit worrying (it's bound to happen because it's part and parcel of life-whether you worry or not so why worry?)
2. Be prepared - start planning for your kids. eg. getting the right insurance plans, savings etc to ensure that they're taken care of should anything happen
3. Live life to the fullest - live like there's no tomorrow. appreciate every moment there is.
when you keep doing that, you'd stop worrying and then..hopefully get over your fear. everyone fears the unknown. just don't let that ruin your life.
2007-07-31 14:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by justagirlinasia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One way would be to try faith. Perhaps if you realize that God does things with a purpose, or at least brings important lessons out of bad things that happen, you will rest easier. You also have to remember that you can't live your life afraid. If you do that you won't live at all. And you won't be a good parent. If your situation is that bad you may want to talk to a therapist. They can usually give you a different perpsective on things.
Although it can be scary sometimes we're all going to die someday. And we have no control over that. This may be an issue of control with you. You want to have some control over your kids life because you want what's best for them. The reality, however, is that God knows what's best for them. Offer this preocupation to God, and let Him worry about it. He will take care of things.
2007-07-31 14:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by Thom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It might help you to know that you are not alone. This is a very common fear known as Thanatophobia. Since we have never actually experienced death it is the fear of the unknown that terrifies us. Try exploring the subject further to decide whether you need professional help or if you just need to connect with others who feel the same way. It's comforting sometimes to know you are not alone in your fear.
2007-08-01 00:04:11 · answer #5 · answered by twistedsister 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust in God that he is there love & protect and keep you safe.
You may have anxiety disorder form the accident, see your Doc about getting some meds like xanax I reccomend.
2007-07-31 14:42:12 · answer #6 · answered by relaxrx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
accept that life is there and make use of it. Its good to know you might die as I also do but make use of life when you have it. Just use it with all the work and effort you have and enjoy life.
2007-07-31 15:15:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to overcome this fear is to stop thinking about dying.
2007-07-31 14:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋