Over the weekend I spent alot of time with my really good friend (we dated when we were younger only broke up cause at that age you really are all about what your friends think well time has made his and my friends friends (6 years or so lol)). Anyways back to the point it got into a pretty in depth conversation about dating and all the mistakes we had made in the dating game over the years. It also didn't help that my sister and my brotehrs (and best friend included) all amde comments about us dating atthe party we went to. Well basiclly my friend has admitted he is crazy about me, and trust me I'm all into him too what has me all confused and scared for lack of a better word is granted a lot has to do with my last horrid relationship and that pain (my friend was with me every step of the way during the divorce and it was cool to have a person to lean on) not to mention I'm worried about our friendship ending and well you know the typical turning a friend into a relationship issues.
2007-07-31 07:02:16 · 14 answers · asked by Varacha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Go for it. You've both had bad relationships and made mistakes, so hopefully you've both learned what NOT to do, and won't do those things with each other.
There's only one way to know if the relationship would work. You've got to have one. Take the plunge, don't focus on the past, and enjoy each other.
2007-07-31 07:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see where you don't want to lose the friendship and that would scare you, but don't let the mistakes of others in your past prevent you from going forward with your life. If you're into him, why not go for it? If you've been friends for a long time you're likely to stay friends, even if you break up at some point.
2007-07-31 14:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by Beth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think the best thing to do would be to talk to him about where he sees the relationship going and if you don't feel comfortable doing it to his face you can ask him anonymously using an anonymous messenger sight like http://hikkup.com , my mom ended up dumping her high school sweetheart after about 5 years of dating then got married twice and had two kids, then she ended up getting married to him a few years ago and now they are happy, so it doesn't always go bad but just be honest with each other, i wish you the best of luck
2007-07-31 14:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by stacyc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you explore the relationship. It sounds like he has always been there when you have needed him in the past. Given that you have broken up once before I doubt another would change the friend ship if it came to that. If you don't explore the possibility you may always wonder "what if" the rest of your life.
Good Luck
2007-07-31 14:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started dating my friend and now he has been my husband for 22 yrs. Starting out as friends takes the pressure off of the relationship. It gives each time to know each other better. Just take it very slow.
2007-07-31 14:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is meant to be it will, but remember that he already knows what not to do becuz of allthat u have told him, so u run that risk of a fake guy and not the real guy he would normally be,or u can see him use what u told him as stone and say well when such and such did this u looked the other way, u know what i mean, but if it feels right go for it u never know u could get married.
2007-07-31 14:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by q45dip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still have issues about your last horrible relationship that are making you unsure about starting a new one, then don't get involved with anyone until you work through the old issues. It's called baggage.
2007-07-31 14:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you two are really good freinds..and maybe this is the time to change that to something with more value...sure it didnt work out the first time..but i bet you both have grown since then..go for it...it cant be any worse than dating someone else you have nothing incommon with..good luck and go for it
2007-07-31 14:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welll typically speaking u would be scared...what you should do is open your heart and let him in...if you guys really are feeling each other then test the waters....take a chance...it will come out how u want it t just believe...and if not hey !there are plenty of fish in the sea
2007-07-31 14:06:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I would say to talk to him about it even more. Tell him exactly how you feel and want him to feel too. Make sure he wouldn't cheat or break your heart. And you must do the same. Go for it though. Good Luck!!
2007-07-31 14:10:04 · answer #10 · answered by TristaKayW 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋