My friend talks to me regularly, but I don't feel much warmth in our conversations. Even when we talk about emotionally charged topics, she takes a removed, intellectual approach towards them. This is something I've always appreciated, but lately I'm sick of it. I've tried telling her I wish she was more personal, but all that's done has gotten her to talk more about herself without regard for what I say. She rarely asks me questions about myself or what I'm up to. I just don't feel encouraged. Other friends tell me I should be the "bigger" person and treat her the way I want to be treated...but I can only take so much. This person is supposed to be a good friend...and we do talk a lot...but our friendship is "emotionally lacking." When is it time to settle and when is it time to hit the road? I'm usually the one initiating new topics of conversation and even inviting her to spend time together. I don't feel like I'm getting a fair deal...this is supposed to be a FRIENDSHIP.
2007-07-31 06:58:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sometimes in life it's wise to cut people out who aren't helpful or bring you down if she brings you down instead of raise you up - she's not a true friend. How is she your friend anyway ?
I'd offer distance before I'd write her off - perhaps space will offer you some time to think and miss her or realize you're better off parted. I guess being honest with her would help some people are so dense and in their own world.
You are right a fair and balance is about give and take.
But I often found I had friends who I turned to when sad, or needed help yet my best friend in the world growing up laughed when 'bad' things happened (tripping in front of people or my bad grades) perhaps I made her feel better when luck wasn't for me ??
Anyway - cut back and see if she notices if she does be honest - and good luck
2007-07-31 07:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by kelly e 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THis happened to me once with my best friend. I would want a little whine time and she would have the answer to everything.I just wanted to vent. She got to the point it was like , hey if you don't like this or that , change it Witch, Kinda in my face. I just sat back for awhile and finally had a talk with her. I told her she had become a know it all and it was getting on my last nerve. I finally figured out she was going thru some stuff herself and the wierdness was about her, not me. I called her on it and she straighened up and we are still best friends.
2007-07-31 18:44:51 · answer #2 · answered by BELINDA B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you feel there is no emotional attachment left between the two of you then let go of this friendship, but let go in a nice way. by nice way i mean, leave in such a way, that you leave a bit of space behind, so that when this friend realises your worth, you both can be good friends again.
it's very difficult to carry a relationship entirely on your own with no emotional input from the other. so its better to let it go.
:)
2007-07-31 15:24:40 · answer #3 · answered by *Hope* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt say the best approach is to plan anything at all, just let it happen, and if you arent getting enough out of it she will pick up on that and change, or you'll just drift apart. dont treat her how you want to be treated tho thats silly. different people want different things and you might piss her off so dont bother.
2007-07-31 14:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by hobgoblin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dnt b mean 2 her just casssuallly slowly stp hangin wit her and just b friends
2007-07-31 14:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by xXxBEBExXx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU GET SICK AND TIERED OF IT THEN STOP BEING FRIENDS.
2007-07-31 14:07:29 · answer #6 · answered by kiarra_kiarra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋