I went to a web site, www.nomarriage.com..........think more women need to check that site out. Women need to start understanding men and the way we are instead of being so selfish. I was married once and I don't think i'll ever do it again!
2007-07-31 06:51:08 · 17 answers · asked by thomas c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wanted to be with someone as devoted to me as I was to her. The first wife didn't work out, but the second one sure did. Best thing I ever did was getting married again! I'm finally ME!
2007-07-31 06:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay you will never marry again. Your question was why get married again? People get married again because they found someone they love,some that smells great/they have a warm heart/ great personality, I could go on and on about why people get married again. Some women do understand men, and not all women are selfish....Sorry about the luck you've had, but we aren't all the same, NO matter MALE/FEMALE we are not all the same.
2007-07-31 07:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by Here Kitty Kitty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all women are like that. Not all women are selfish, and I dont think it is selfish for a woman to want a man who is financially stable, supportive, and mature, at least. I think that is only natural. I am the type of woman who WAS extremely independant and didnt want shi& from any man. I am one who will get the job done, and if I cannot make it happen, it just isnt meant at that time. I have since had to learn to SHARE with my fiance and SHARE responsibility and not count on myself alone. Some of us are actually pretty independent and would rather go without than pimp ourselves for a lay... I feel, however, it is typical of a man to want to turn the tables and say women are oppressive. That is the fate of any oppressor... race oppressors and gender oppressors alike. For centuries women have endured male dominance, and oppression, men are now crying like little babies of how the big bad ol woman hurt them.
I was just on that site and I was disgusted by some of the statements it makes... If half of that stuff is true, remember facts dont mean SHI* WITH NO REFERENCES. For all I know the author of that site, most likely a jaded man, could be pulling those numbers out his as-s.
Women cheat, men cheat, both types are disgusting if you ask me. You too have had a bad experience with a woman... I feel bad, and want to encourage you to not just give up and feed yourself bullshi* from that site. Not all women are like that, there are many woman and man bashing sites, and we can easily be swept away by them. Just remember that there are some of us who want nothing more than for our husband to be happy and our marriages to work. Men and women are different, men and women are selfish, yes, but that cannot be said of all.
2007-07-31 07:43:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think women are selfish? I think that's a selfish way to feel. Just because you had issues with your wife, doesn't make all women the same way. Marriage is for people who respect and love each other enough to make that commitment for the rest of their lives. If you can't handle that, you shouldn't get married again.
2007-07-31 06:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Thomas - I completely agree with you.
I've been married for 11 years (together for over 16). We have a good relationship and a strong family. I'm not looking to leave or step out on her, and as far as I know, neither is she.
However, if it EVER comes to an end (either divorce or she were to pass away before me) I have already decided that I would not likely ever get remarried.
Its not that its bad, or that I want out, but as I think back on my life and the amount of time and effort I've put into building up my career and the money / house / etc.... and the fact that in the U.S. if we were to split (even if it was no fault, or because of her) she would still get at a minimum 1/2 of everything I've worked my entire life to acheive !?!?
Plus - I think of all the freedom I've given up over the years. I live in a bigger house than I wanted to buy, at a greater cost, drive a 'sensible' sedan instead of the sports car I really wanted, etc....
I have frilly pillows and crap with french wording on it all over the house and in the kitchen. I would have my house nic, but minimal - she has made it into nick-nack central. Of course all picked out by her because:
1) Men don't really care about those things
2) I know to choose the battles wisely - no need to get in a fight over a crappy wall painting that I don;t really care about in the first place.
However, I think a good deal of men live in this situation in the U.S.
The man works full-time, the wife maybe part-time to allow her more time with the kids. She dictates the decor of the home, the color of the paint, what the kids wear, what the husband wears, where the kids attend school, what car(s) the family has, etc.... Most women look at this as their "status" in society and will shape it to their liking.
Then if anything bad should happen in the relationship, the man gets to move out of the house that HIS salary, credit score, and earning power got them into in the first place, and she gets to keep at least 1/2 (if not more) of the furishings, plus he gets to pay out child support to her until the kids are 18, while he only gets to see them a couple weekends out of the month !!!!
The legal system is set up to screw the man into the ground.
Like I said - I love my wife and have no intention of ever slipping up, but if I had it to do over and KNEW where marriage leads in 10 years, I'm not sure I would've signed on.
Better to stay single and spend your money the way you want.
If I ever have to hit the lifetime "reset" button - you can bet I won't follow the same path again.
2007-07-31 07:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by aa889d 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This site is really funny.It's a shame that some of those are facts and not just opinions! I don't understand men nor woman just myself. I am an single person who has never been or done anything with anyone because I like my freedom, and I'm afraid of getting hurt, and because I just want to get my BA and money situated before I get into all of that. I guess people get married because they want that security.
2007-07-31 07:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by Kita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first marriage didn't work out. Maybe because I was too young or because I married for the wrong reasons. Whatever the reason it only lasted a year. I too said I'd never do it again. But then I met my husband and all that changed. I love this man and I am so glad that I changed my mind about marriage!!
2007-07-31 07:17:10 · answer #7 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrying again probably isn't the right choice for you if you want to lump all women into one category. That's your individual choice
There are good and bad people in every race, country, and gender. I'm not willing to give up on all men just because of one bad relationship.
2007-07-31 06:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi...
i'm a woman and i don't want to get married again, either....
i could change my mind in the future but believe me, i won't "hound" anyone about getting married... to each his or her own lifestyle.
if you are dating women who have to have a promise of marriage or hint around about it all of the time, maybe you're attracted to "the needy types"?
perhaps ask out some who don't seem like your type? maybe those would be more suitable, and less needy.
seems like we are attracted to the same sort of people quite a lot of the time, and end up dating the "same person" over and over again.... they just LOOK different.
take care.
2007-07-31 06:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fine, don't do it again. Some people shouldn't ever marry...especially those that lump all men or all women together as a group and act as though we all think and behave the same.
2007-07-31 06:54:20 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋