Do you think equality exists in relationship ?

Question

please dont give me the``oprah answer``. give me your honest opinion from your experiance out from the real world

Answer 1

In my opinion, it depends on how YOU personally define equality.

Equality to me does not mean a 50/50 split on every little detail. Nor does it mean that because he makes a decision on something that I am now no longer his equal.

I believe that couples work on their relationship until they achieve a balance that is right for them.

Answer 2

It does exists, not superficial. read this The Equality Equation: Are You In An Equal Partnership? In the early stages of a relationship, the intense chemistry and mutual love of Chinese take-out while watching old movies may seem like more than enough. After you've gained that inevitable five pounds that comes with the transition from singledom to domesticity, you'll certainly find that "making it last" isn't as simple as pressing "play." The reality is that all the wonderful benefits of a long-term relationship come with intense responsibilities to manage that partnership. Building a balanced, equal partnership isn't an easy task and can't be ordered off a take-out menu. Equality in a relationship has many dynamics. Essentially, for a partnership to be healthy, both parties have to feel equally valued in relation to emotions, lifestyle, finances and objectives. Below are a series of questions that will help you start thinking about the equality in your relationship. Are Your Priorities Just As Important? Is your partner aware of your goals, dreams and hopes for the future? Does your relationship allow you to pursue these objectives? Is your partner supportive of your endeavors? Are you equally supportive of his/hers? Do you frequently adapt your schedule to meet your partner's needs? Does one party in the relationship seem to extend more effort on the "us?" Are You A Financial Equal? Does one partner bring more money into the relationship? Are both of you comfortable with this situation? Are you aware of your partner's assets, debts and spending habits? Do you find it difficult to discuss financial issues with your partner? Are You An Emotional Equal? Do both of you communicate your feelings? Are you open to listening to your partner's feelings and concerns? Do you feel your concerns are addressed by your partner? Are you fulfilled intimately? There is no pass or fail on this quiz and your equality equation comes from your feelings of comfort with the partnership. Every relationship is different and creating balance takes constant attention. Don't be overly alarmed if these thought-starting questions lead you to wonder about your relationship. Make a commitment to set aside quality communication time to discuss the areas where you have concerns. Remember, a major symptom of an unequal relationship is the fear or inability to communicate your thoughts and concerns.

Answer 3

It depends on the relationship. In friendship, one can hope for it, but lets face it, there is often a dominant friend in a group. In a partnership/marriage, you really have to both work for it, and it doesn't work for everyone.

However, it is worth noting that the "silent" partner is often the one that gives the control to the other partner. And they can take it away at any time if they do not agree with how things are working. In many ways, they control the relationship. The "deciding" partner only has the degree of control that the "silent" one gives them.

Answer 4

Not in the 50 50 sense. As a matter of fact, I think that need creates relationships - so there is no "equality" as such.

Answer 5

My real world is that I have been happily married to the same wonderful lady for 24 years. She is my equal partner in every way, and in fact, in some ways surpasses my abilities. When I say she is my partner, I really mean it, positively my equal.

Answer 6

equality can exist in any relationship IF both are committed to making sure the relationship itself is on equal terms. It isn't something that can be taken for granted, and it may fluctuate over any given period of time, but yes, I think it can and does exist.

Answer 7

Definitely not! I have seen husbands treat their wives as punching bags, sex slaves, beasts of burden for housework. I have seen wives treat their husbands as statistics, bank accounts, and scapegoats. But in our house, it's an equal balance. It's not mine or hers, it's ours. We are a collective here. For her to obey me would make her a slave and I detest slavery.

Answer 8

I believe equality disappeared long after Chivalry died out.