Is it true, in courts, when fighting for custody...?

Question

that whoever has the most money wins the case???
Isn't it usually the mother that gets custody no matter what the childs gender and no matter how much money, as long as she can properly care for the child????

Answer 1

When I divorced, I shared joint custody, but if the parents are fighting for custody, I have always heard that custody will usually go to the mother unless the father can prove that she's unfit as a parent.

Answer 2

No, it is not true..

I am currently going through a very nasty divorce. I have 3 daughters who are suffering from this.

Here is my background to help give you some idea on what to expect:

My ex kicked me out of the house on my birthday and gave me one week to find a place to live, told me news years day she wants a divorce, a few days before Fathers day tells me that she's throwing a birthday party for the kids ( a month Late)on fathers day. She cheated on me, and unfortunately Ohio is a state that doesn't care about adultery. Not to mention that I had gotten an apartment by my children so I could go for shared parenting. She tells me after I am locked into this apartment that she's moving across town, and in with her boyfriend. To make matters worse she refuses to get a job and does a side job for primerica financial services..
I never beat,hit or abused my ex, she just got tired of the marrige, like she did her first one (amazingly almost 1 month difference in divorce time).

The information that I have given you is just the tip of the iceberg in my case. However I use it to prove a point....

Now I have the money, I have the finances and the family to give my children a better life, and a more stable and involved life. I even pay more attention to my daughters and don't shirk them off onto other people to watch all the time, or leave them with a different babysitter every other day.


The justice system is geared to women with no, or little regard to the father or the real best interest of the children.
I have found that even if you are selling yourself on the streets and have daughters, the courts will more than likely give you custody of your children. The system is broken and is in need of revamp.

I am going to tell you this, that you can go ahead and fight, but in the end you have to do whats best for all parties, what you do to your ex will effect the way he looks, talks acts around you, and he will resent you and even grow to hate you. This unfortunately will then effect the way he is around the kids when it comes to you.

I am telling you this, from my experience. I am getting taken to the cleaners because the system is broken and my ex is no more than a money grubbing leach ( I should have seen it earlier, because her mother was the same way). It does effect the way that I am about things concering my ex. I don't talk to her, I despise her, I don't and won't talk to her on the phone, I will hang up as soon as I can etc etc etc.

If you really cared at all for your kids think about what you are doing, because divorce destroys children in the long run, and then they repeat the same mistakes as us.

Answer 3

This isn't always true. The case depends on the state and the situation.

In most community states the child can choose who he/she wants to live with after a certain age. Joint custody is given and in most cases the smaller children will remain with the mother with the father having full visitation privileges.

Some cases are even given with split visitation, 1 week with father 1 week with mother and up to 30 days each.

At this day and age, children are to be cared for by both parents to eliminate being pulled apart.

Answer 4

Your two statements contradict each other. The court is supposed to grant custody in the interest of the child or children. It is very rare for the court to separate child to sort by gender.

Answer 5

Not always, I won custody of my three boys with no problem and no lawyer. You need to be smart and prove that living with you is "In the BEST interest of the children."

Answer 6

Not necessarily -- but litigation is expensive, and more money means better lawyers and more resources to fight the legal battle.

So, while we all hope truth and justice will prevail, in reality the financial tally makes a difference too.