Another question regarding virginity?

Question

what if he is interested in weird stuff...like a 3sum...swinging...watching me with another girl? is that normal if the guy was a virgin...? we have been together 13 years... and we are ok but he is a very sexual person...how do i keep him happy without involving other people..and will it ever be enough? i love him sooo much but refuse to do the things he wants to do..i need a way around it... please help

Answer 1

every normal guy wants too, most women dont let us, you cant blame a guy for fantasies, dont worry your relationship and sex life are perfactly normal,

Answer 2

His fantasies have nothing to do with whether or not he was a virgin when you got together. They are just fantasies. You can choose to enact them or not.

That fact that he is a sexual person has to do with his biology and nothing else. High levels of testosterone = high sexual desire.

The bottom line with fantasies is to find out what about it turns him on? Also, is there a way to meet that need w/o actually bringing other people into the marriage? You need to become the investigator here and talk to him about this with an open mind and open heart.

Answer 3

His curiosity about other options is not just because he was a virgin. While that is the first thing a lot of people will blame it on, I am convinced it is not the only factor involved. See, he's a guy. Guys like sex. A lot of guys like variety too. That doesn't mean that variety without boundaries is good. My husband and I have plenty of variety in our sex life - but we will NEVER involve another person. You shouldn't have to involve another person just for his sake. Obviously it's not one of those ideas that you're comfortable with. Ask him to be a little more creative, and think of ways to bring variety to things without bringing in other people. Sex shouldn't be a community thing. It should stay between two people. And I don't mean two people at a time. I mean two people, period. Don't let him convince you to do anything you're uncomfortable with. If you bring another person into the picture, or switch to a "swinger" status, you're never going to feel like you're enough. Don't do that to yourself. Explain to him how you feel. If he loves you, he should at least be willing to work through it.

Answer 4

Super freak. Remember you had all the signs right in front of your face. Sorry but I had nothing of those sort of thoughts when I was a virgin, maybe a couple of years later.

Many years later I gained much respect for my wife and those thoughts went away. So it's a gamble for you, just make sure not bring any kids into your lives until you are convinced he is sexually stable.

Answer 5

Lol, nicely, considering that Mary's anticipating an answer . . . i'm bisexual, no longer lesbian, yet i've got faith that virginity is an pretty inner maximum, very own, and maximum critically, guy or woman journey. What constitutes the lack of ability of virginity to one individual will possibly no longer for yet another. some human beings think of virginity is the presence of an intact hymen. Others think of this is the act of penetrating the vagina with a penis. For me, individually, i think of that virginity is the act of being naive approximately and not having the journey of sexual intimacy with yet somebody else. Masturbation isn't a breech of virginity, to me, while you evaluate that's in basic terms you, and solitary intercourse is *very* diverse than what happens whilst 2 human beings come mutually sexually. i in basic terms can not say that that's one particular act, because of the fact i come across it ridiculous to think of that 2 young babies who many times work together in oral and anal intercourse- who've introduced one yet another to orgasm, who've shared actual fluids and been as close and intimate that's fairly achieveable- are a approach or the different virgins. that would not jibe with me, in basic terms because of the fact her vaginal canal has in no way been penetrated. the line between foreplay and "quite intercourse" is, lower back, very very own and not ordinary to universally define, yet for me, in the journey that your clothing are off and additionally you're stimulating yet somebody else's genitals (or having your inspired), or in case you attain orgasm with somebody else (clothed or no longer, direct stimulation or no longer), you at the instant are not from now on a virgin. you presently have intimate sexual know-how, some thing which you haven't any longer have been given in common with different people who have not accomplished such issues. in the tip, we are going to in no way choose a real definition, yet i think of somebody's slightly tousled in the pinnacle in the event that they tell me that a woman who has been to 20 lesbian orgies, who has fisted different females and had her face buried between countless lady legs is a virgin.

Answer 6

There is no way around it. Your boyfriend is a "FREAK". If your not a freak then you must move on. If you are thinking about participating in his escapades, maybe your a little freaky too. If he is indeed a virgin, he's just a virgin to others, he's been with himself and porno for a while.

Answer 7

ha ha ha wow wow,,, what a coincidence,,, im a virgin guy ,, yup waiting for marriage and all ,, and guess what,, 3 sum yes, swinging yes,, watching your gf with another girl hmmm never thought about it,,, ,,, you know why this happens ?? because im a virgin, yea im horny and all but but but but but but i will never ever ever sleep with a women i am not in love with,, and i hope i marry her first, well other ppl might think im a pervert but think about this,, i never had sex in my life and i wanna do it for the real reason,, every other fantasy is only to get me by,,,, its the same as virgin gals masturbating,,its to get off you know,, sometimes its the urge, its not cheating,, its just to let off,,, I know for sure its just a fantasy,, he wont do it ,, i wont let my gf do it because i love her that much for me to wait for her,, get what i mean ?

Answer 8

He is normal with normal urges...what happens between the two of you is up to the two of you....don't do anything you feel uncomfortable with. Dicsuss in detail before embarking on that trail

Answer 9

have this discussion with him. find out what he's thinking and tell him how you feel and what you want.

Answer 10

you need to say what you want