My girlfriend and I broke up just this last Thursday. We are still really close... and care about eachother, but it's obvious to both of us that this time it's really over. I still want to be with her and this is very hard for me.
Originally I am from Portland, OR. And since I was 13 years old I have had a huge crush on a guy. Usually it was mutual, but we always managed to be seeing other people. I would normally tell all my friends that I would leave ANYONE for him.
Since we've broken up I'm making a 400 mile drive up to visit. This guy wants to see me. Says he'll get us a nice room for the night. But, I still want to be with my ex. I know that if I meet this guy up there, it'll be completely over for my ex and I .
I've always wanted to be with him, and I DO understand that it's probably a one night thing.
AND I think it really it is over. Even though I don't want it to be...
I don't know what to do...
2007-07-31 05:55:32 · 8 answers · asked by u_fas_n8me 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
OH! Sorry. I was planning on going to Portland to see my best friend, that *was* the only reason, til he told me he's moving to Canada in ONE month. It wouldn't be just for him, I am thinking about moving back, and that wouldn't have anything to do with him since he is moving so far away.
2007-07-31 06:05:33 · update #1
Well, the gay guy in me says sleep with the guy, of course.... :) But, from the advice of a total stranger....
I don't think you're going to know until ground zero, so to speak. Gauge how you feel and what you think you can deal with after the fact. Is it really over? If it is, why am I traveling 400 miles for this guy? Are these shoes in season?
No, really - think HARD about this one, because it sounds like there's no turning back after that. Evaluate WHAT YOU ARE GETTING out of this trip. Sex? Romance? Replacement?
....This is a terrible answer, because I can't give you anything definite. I'm sorry, sugar, but this is a decision you gotta make yourself. Just make sure you know why you're doing it, k? Good luck! XOXO
2007-07-31 06:05:29 · answer #1 · answered by gochefs (Geo) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it's over between the two of you, so you just need to let some time pass and you will get over her. You're probably still between 16 and 22 anyway. In my experience many women are bisexual in that age group. I won't go into why I think that, but suffice to say that more than a few college "lesbians" are married with kids by the time they're 35.
Why are you running off to see this guy so soon? You have no business seeing someone else romantically so soon after a breakup. Also, do you realize you're endangering anything you might have with him by making him your rebound?
2007-07-31 13:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by Peter D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't drive 400 miles to have sex with some guy. and time will alleviate your feelings about your ex. it's great that you can still be close and all, but maybe you need to take a little break from contact with each other, until you can come back to each other as friends, and not feel badly about it?
2007-07-31 13:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not recommend driving 400 miles for a one night stand. If you have had feelings for this guy for a long time, you are only going to hurt yourself by sleeping with him, and it leading to nothing.
2007-07-31 12:59:36 · answer #4 · answered by Floramoon 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
do what makes u happy.
u wanted him for this long. dont u want to know what u are missing ?
plus break up is hard on everybody. get urself together and go have fun.
good luck
2007-07-31 13:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by Vicky Z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should wait before having any relationship with anyone, esp. someone who is moving... Take care of Yourself 1st.
2007-07-31 13:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by sAm cbt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is follow your heart......if you truly feel it's over and you really want to go see this man..........it sounds to me that you have already made up your mind......Good Luck! I wish you the best in Love!
2007-07-31 12:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by sweetpea 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Forget both of them. but first pick which sex you want to be involved with.....either ya like girls or ya like boys. I think its weird to like both what the hell
2007-07-31 13:00:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋