When i talked to him last night before he went to bed he was really quiet and didn't even say I love you before he got off..when i woke up this morning i started thinking about it and i didn't feel right about it..now what i did next I know isn't right and i shouldn't have done but..i looked though his messages on myspace and was shocked!...This is how it went down....
-the girl
"Hi baby, Your pics are so sexy! Theres no one like you in the area, I just had to send you a message, You don't have a girlfriend do you? :( "
-his response
"hey your pretty cute too... message me if you wanna get together sometime..."
..that really hurts me that he would even reply to a message like that!...and the fact that he didn't say he had a gf..(and he tells me he loves me to death)..and he wants to hang out with her..& he has to know something will end up happening if they meet...I know I'm in the wrong for looking through his messages..but...I don't know what to do..should i confront him about it?
2007-07-31 05:36:36 · 8 answers · asked by kpopfan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
& what hurts the most is that i really do love him..i mean I've given him everything..and the fact he would reply like that hurts like crazy..we've been going out for almost 6months now..
2007-07-31 05:46:22 · update #1
Also..the other message she sent him..which he has yet to reply to was asking him if he wanted to see her on her webcam..of course doing provocative things..
2007-07-31 05:54:06 · update #2
& how do i even bring it up to him..It's hard to even keep my emotions in now..and i don't know what to say to bring it up..
2007-07-31 05:56:09 · update #3
You're right, you shouldn't have snooped but you did, and you can't very well undo that. Now, should you confront him about something you shouldn't know anything about? I wouldn't, because then he'll know you violated his privacy. A better strategy might be to more closely watch his behavior so that you're more aware of where you actually stand with him apart from the token niceties he might utter. It won't stop anything from happening (but then again, nothing can except his conscience), but it will keep you from being totally blindsided by sad information later on.
2007-07-31 05:45:41 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you looked through his messages on myspace and obsessed over something as trivial as him being a bit quiet and ONCE forgetting to say I love you, sorry babe but that seems a bit neurotic.
just relax a bit more , I do think you should confront him (but CALMLY!) about the messages and then say you need some time to think and dont call him, and let him make the moves and make it up to you. You can tell a lot about a persons feelings and intentions when they are left with the choice of saving the relationship or not , when the balls in their court so to speak..good luck
2007-07-31 18:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason you know his password - if he gave it to you, you have a right to be on his myspace. I check my boyfriends every other day and he checks mine. Niether of us have anything to hide. I would suggest bringing it up to him in person... Your other option is to become a detective. Get some pictures of another girl and set up your own myspace... Pretending to be her. Message him and try to set up a meeting or something. If he goes for it you have a right to be mad. It could be him just trying to pass time online and being a regular guy but see how far he'll take it... I might even consider it with my b/f to see... Is that bad? lol - lack of trust, maybe. But they're men (dogs) they deserve it !! haha, just kidding - well, good luck, tell me what happens?
2007-07-31 12:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by Shailyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. It's not like you hacked into his account, he obviously GAVE it to you.
I would just ask him, "So where do you plan on meeting _____?"
Just like that. Sure, it'll start a fight and he'll get defensive by saying "I can't believe you read my messages/ can't a guy get some privacy/ I was just joking with he/ etc."
But you need to confront him head on. If things don't work out in the end, at least you all ready knew what a loser he was.
And the girl obviously emails random men on myspace.
Go back into his account and BLOCK her.
2007-07-31 13:26:31 · answer #4 · answered by JMC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not wrong to look through his messages, tell him what you saw and ask why he said what he did and why he did not say anything about you, tell him to tell the truth b ut chances are he will lie so if you really do not love him dump him, maybe he wll realize he can not treat you the way he did.
2007-07-31 12:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes its just talk , iam sure my husband has done this a time or two also after all they are men when it becomes more thats time to let go and in your case he has asked for a meet time to let go . talking is one thing meeting is cheating and you need to find out....
2007-07-31 12:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by greenonion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes a cheater. Just move on. There are plenty of GOOD guys out there!
2007-07-31 12:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by ♥M♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick with him anyway you might get in on a 3 some
2007-07-31 12:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋