how would you feel if your gf/wife talked to their ex?

Answer 1

I'd smack her till she didn't talk back.

Answer 2

It depends on the context. If the gf/wife were trying to hide it and discussing inappropriate issues, then I would say feelings of anger, resentment, and distrust would be appropriate.

If the gf/wife had a reason to speak to the ex (even if you don't agree with her reasoning), was upfront, shared the reasons for the contact and was open about what was going on/discussed, then I don't see any cause for concern.

My current situation is that I am in the process of getting divorced. In my state, you must live separately for one year before you can file for divorce. My ex and I have reached an agreement about equitable distribution amicably. Since my divorce will not be final for another two months, I want to keep everything amicable between us. If my ex wants to chat, I will chat to keep it amicable. I have let my current BF know each time I talk to my ex, and have had my end of the conversation within his hearing (at least once). We discussed this openly, and he states that by not hiding it and since the frequency is pretty low (about every other month) he is comfortable with it.

Open communication is the key. It builds trust and a better relationship.

Answer 3

Well my husband ex seems to pop up at his parents house once in a blue moon or even call. I do not care, he married me and I make fun of her the entire time. They broke up for a reason and he even says there is no way he would go back to that. She just comes over because she said she wants to always remain friends with the family... yeah ok.
Anyway, my ex calls once in a blue moon too. I pay no mind to him and he just calls to make sure I am still alive I guess. My husband laughs and says we should hook the two of them up so they can come over or call together. We are both very happy in our relationship and hide nothing from each other. So with trust we do not worry about ex's.

Answer 4

AS LONG AS I KNOW WHEN THEY TALK AND I KNEW THERE WAS NOTHING THERE, I GUESS IS FINE WITH ME. I TALK TO MY EX ALL THE TIME. I DON'T WANT TO GET BACK WITH HIM AND I DON'T HAVE FEELINGS LIKE THAT FOR HIM. I MEAN I DO CARE FOR HIM AND IF HE NEVER NEED ANYTHING AND I COULD HELP HIM I WOULD. HE IS JUST A GREAT FRIEND AND A GOOD PERSON. BUT I GUESS EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT BECAUSE MY NOW EX USED TO GET VERY UPSET ABOUT ME TALKING TO HIM. I DEPENDS ON THE PERSON AND IF YOU THINK THERE STILL CARE FOR EACH OTHER. AND ALSO HOW CONFIDENT YOU ARE.

Answer 5

I agree. Unless their are kids involved than there is no need for her to talk to an ex whether they are just friends or not. Ask her how she would feel if you kept in close contact with one of your ex's, it's always different when the roles are reversed. If you are important enough to her, she will understand and stop.

Answer 6

I would be very upset. My husband has no reason to talk to an ex. I on the other hand need to talk with my ex husband being that we share 3 children. When we talk that is all the conversation is about.

Answer 7

I'd honestly feel a little jealous, unless they had made it clear from the beginning of our relationship that they were still friends with their ex, and also if they included me in conversations, dinners, etc. with their ex, like we were all buddies. If they insisted on having privacy when talking to them, or if they wanted to meet them alone without me for drinks or dinner, I would think that was VERY suspicious, and I wouldn't stand for it.

Answer 8

You and I wouldn't get along, budlightdonkey. My ex and I have been divorced for 14 years now, and our kids are now grown with grandkids. He and I were better as friends then partners and from time to time we do call to catch up with each other. I have never kept it a secret from my bfs or late husband, and would resent anyone telling me I can't do it. It's an issue of trust. If my current love thinks after 14 years I'm going back to the ex, he's ridiculous, and if he pushes the issue, he's gone. I have the right to choose whom I talk to.

Answer 9

Sweet Pea which is it your gf or your wife? This is never good in any relationship, and is only acceptable if there is children involved. This only starts of mixed feelings and that is detrimental to any relationship. God bless!

Answer 10

Unless there are minor kids involved, she should NOT be talking to her ex. My ex once told me that the only reason ex's remain "friends" is to get into each others pants if their present relationship does not work out. They're a back up plan. Major red flag.

Answer 11

being nice or saying hey to a ex is FINE i'ld not allow myself or my hubby to meet up hang out with go places with a ex. I would NOT be bi**h to a ex because of my hubby. I'ld not expect my huby to be rude if he HAPPEN to run into a ex. Even if they talked i'ld really not care as long as they were not meeting up planning crap together that would STOP fast.