Everyday life is hard for everyone, we all have different issues to deal with, mine are late bills, landlord calling for late rent, a mother who has a couple of months to live, a father who is stressed out and tired, a preg. daughter who is trying her hardest to take care of things while Im at work feeling like a piece of sh@#$ for not being there. The guilt of trying to make everyone less stressed in life is making my own life a hell. My husband and I spend not time together with his fulltime job and then his side work on weekends. Then when we do see eachother we are to tired and once again I feel guilty.I know Im kinda babbling and feeling sorry for myself. What do you do to ease lifes troubles. Let me know if you have a similar life and what you do to not go crazy! Thanks in advance for any info!
2007-07-31 05:21:30 · 5 answers · asked by shawnie 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I have two terminal illnesses and not much time ---however, I don't complain about it and I try to live EACH DAY as the very GIFT that it IS.... You wake up in the morning---it's a gift. You hug your kids at night and tell them bedtime stories--that TOO is a gift, you kiss your husband as he walks through the door too tired to barely sit at the table and eat--but that TOO is a gift.... everything you HAVE in life is a gift... it is NOT yours to keep however... It can be taken away at a moment's notice... landlords can call, bill collectors can hound, babies will cry and men get cranky---this IS all a part of life... but, it CAN and WILL get better---and no matter how BAD you think your life IS, the alternative is MUCH worse...... you just have to try sacrifice to get those bills paid, love harder, work harder and BE STRONGER and all the bad things in life SHALL PASS...nothing (including the bad things) lasts forever... be more optomistic, find the GOOD in what you have and enjoy the times you DO have on this earth....Life is WAY too short to dwell only on the bad things... FIND something worthwhile in EVERY SINGLE SECOND of the day---because ever second IS worth something...
2007-07-31 05:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guilt is such an over-rated emotion. If you are doing the best you can, guilt can only be detrimental. Focus on positive emotions. Do things that make you smile and laugh.
Make a list of all your problems- it really helps to see them all written out on paper. Next to the problems, write possible solutions. If you can't think of any solutions, set the list aside and look at it later. Then make a list of everything that is good in your life.
2007-07-31 12:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear about your mom and everything.
If I were to stand in your shoes, I don't think I can handle it any better than you could. That's alot to handle for a person.
Anyway, just remember that we're all merely humans and you could only try your best, you can't solve everyone else's problems. That's just the way it is for everyone, sometimes we can't even manage our own problems, let alone trying to solve other's problem.
Don't be so harsh on yourself. You did all you could to help others and that's all that matters. Don't blame yourself it you felt like you couldn't make others life better, they aren't blaming you either, and its a fact that its not your fault.
All of us have problems in our life, and there are certain mess that we can't fix. We just have to deal with it in the best way we could. Don't ever blame yourself when your love ones are having a tough time and you couldn't magically make it ok for them.
I pray that everything will eventually be better for you.
2007-07-31 12:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by Hornet One 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right, everyone has troubles, but it's how we deal with them that affects our sanity-for better or worse. I have to remind myself that I can't control another persons actions, change their thoughts, or run their lives. It's up to each individual to seek peace in their life. I can be there to support- when asked-but my business stops at the end of my nose. The Serinity Prayer helps(sometimes):God, grant me the serinity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Good luck. Peace.
2007-07-31 12:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by Tom H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i feel you!!! i know life is a ***** sometimes to us but just keep telling yourself things will get better. soon they will, keep postive and i'm sorry about your mom , i hope you get to spend the time you want before she enters the new world.
take care may god bless you
2007-07-31 12:29:01 · answer #5 · answered by Raiin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋