I am a woman with the heart and soul of a hopeful dreamer, and I have spent years trying not to let people impair my tendency to see enchanting shadows where others see harsh realities. I am currently trying desparately to fend off the naysayers who tell me I am crazy to think I truly love a man I have only known for a short time. Am I looking at the world through rose colored glasses, or is my vision 20/20?
2007-07-31 05:06:17 · 12 answers · asked by radinsharon 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
It's not just a hormone thing, it is a combination of hormones, looks, actions, etc. That certainly doesn't mean it can't last or become more than that, but really, don't all relationships begin as some kind of immature infatuation? I wouldn't want to be with someone who didn't do it for me. The difference is what happens next. Don't just jump into anything serious like getting a ring, or moving in with him or buying a hampster together. Spend more time with him. Go on lots of dates to lots of different places and activities so that you can see him in many environments and begin to have a better idea of what kind of person he is. Then you have to be realistic and honest with yourself while not overly critical to decide if he is the person you want to be with. Your infatuation can become the best thing in your life if it is nurtured and allowed to grow. Good luck!
2007-07-31 05:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by MattH 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no.
On one end, love is nowhere near as limited as some naysayers claim. Because you can love a dead person, it is possible to love even if you are never (overtly, at least) loved back. Because you can love a fictional person, it's not necessary that there be some kind of initial physical interaction or the like. And even neurologists would be hard-pressed to say whether it is love the makes the hormones go or hormones that make the love go. They just know they typically both around at the same time.
On the other hand, however, if we asked you WHAT you loved about a person you had just met, you would probably be hard-pressed to come up with anything that could be considered a very sound basis for any kind of long lasting relationship. Appearance? Smell? Thirty seconds of behaviour? Come on.
If you are experiencing love at first sight, what you are probably in love with is an IDEA. Now here's the thing - that idea might be right, and it might also be wrong. It's like getting weather reports from a 'magic 8-ball': even if a report turns out to be accurate, it doesn't mean your 8-ball is an accomplished meteorologist.
So in the final analysis you're both right. You are right because it is possible to instantanously fall in love with an idea of how a person is and have that idea turn out to be accurate. The word I would use for that is 'lucky'. The naysayers are also right in that because your feeling is based on fiction, there's no way to be sure on the second when it hits you that it's accurate. You just have to wait and see like everyone else.
So I say keep your hope. You will probably hurt yourself emotionally a bit, but the rest of the time you'll be better off than if you adopted the state of quiet despair that most people have about relationships.
Peace and happiness!
2007-07-31 05:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by Doctor Why 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Love is a decision that we make every moment of our lives.
You are a "hopeful dreamer"?. It is good to have dreams. it is good to have hope. It is not good to go forward with a blindfold on.
I am a realist. I have hope. I have dreams. I know when to quit and count my losses.
The question is whether you truly know the man or do you know only what he or you have projected as the image of reality. even in archeology, scientists believe they have an accurate picture of what was or is. yet every year, new discoveries demonstrate the folly of their theories. wise and learned men, noted philosophers, Thales, for instance thought profound thoughts, many of which I laugh at now. The theory of phlogiston is another example of time setting the record straight. Keep your eyes open and let the evidence to the talking. when you have questions, ask them. and move slowly. these are ways to build real understanding rather than emotional whim.
2007-07-31 05:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by Dr weasel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As in I know there is such a thing as physical attraction at first sight. but do some of you believe that there is a certain something beyond that, that you just look or meet and just know something deep down within? That it is possible to just know somehow about the soul connection or whatever?
2016-04-01 03:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by Violet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it looses something in the translation.
every thinks that lust or infatuation is "love at first sight" but in reality, I believe there is such a thing.
Didn't you ever look at someone and complete lost your breath in the beauty of them, then realize is not just outer beauty, its the inner beauty make this person so beautiful, then you speak to them and realize they are the kind of person you have always believed people should be, you find out they are talented, smart, considerate, patient and strong.
then you remember you are married and you move one.
ugh
2007-07-31 05:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love at first sight is only for the young. Once you wise up, love becomes null invoid. SO if you find love at first sight (chatchew) then fight for your life to keep it beautiful. And take no prisoners.
Dreams are for children too. (dido)
It's only real if you keep it.
Love doesn't have to hurt, so far that's all I've found. But once apon a time I believed it too. I must have lost my vision or my marbles.
2007-07-31 05:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love at first site isn't real.
All love is is a feeling produced by your body in order to put you into a situation to where you can reproduce and keep the species alive.
Love at first site is created by the media. It is a Hallmark concept.
2007-07-31 05:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by Derrick Thomas 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Looks attract at first, but then it takes a compatible personality and morals.Following love at first sight is risky.
2007-07-31 05:10:28 · answer #8 · answered by Indiana Jones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its possible...everything is possible, sometimes there are thing and events that aren't explainable to us, because they don't fit into human explanation.
those who try impair, can't see beyong their impared capabilities. no, you see at world through your perspective, and they see throught theirs.
only you know if you love person or not. you heart, and soul. however, love makes people blind.
2007-07-31 05:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by steven25t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love at first sight refers to the hormonal reaction you get from seeing something that you consider attractive.
2007-07-31 05:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋