For some reason, I have this uncomfortable feeling that my husband may cheat on me with my sister. Judging from the way he is, he's not that kind of person. Aside from that, he never did anything to trigger this feelings. I just don't know why I'm just so insecure about it. I think I need help. I have no idea why I'm feeling like this. This feeling comes and goes. Now I have been feeling like this for the past 2 days. I haven't talk to my husband about it until I have it figure out why. Please help??
2007-07-31 04:40:58 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My sister is also married. I know she would never do anything to hurt me. I just don't understand why I am feeling this way. I have nothing against my sister.
2007-07-31 04:51:51 · update #1
You have somehow gotten a notice, based on incomplete evidence and personal fears, that he will cheat on you
You must look within yourself to discover the root of this fear
2007-07-31 04:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wished I had your feelings about 11 years ago, would have saved me a whole lot of time, money and heartache. I don't know why you would feel this way, in the past, I didn't even let the thought cross my mind, I should have, but I guess I felt that my husband and my sister would be loyal to me. I was wrong.
Watch with an open pair of eyes, you'll know if you're just blowing it out of proportion or not. I didn't know till it was over with that my sister and husband were fooling around either. The only reason it stopped is because he didn't like her drug use and she got mad cuz he didn't keep his promise to leave me and live with her.
I know that doesn't make you feel better, but if I could go back in time, I would have listened to my gut instinct that let me know something was off.
2007-07-31 04:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are numerous reasons why you could be feeling this way and we know nothing of you and your sisters relationship. The one thing I find troubling is you are saying your husband is not that kind of a person. Why did you marry him? Has your husband cheated on you before? There is more to this story than you have told us.
2007-07-31 04:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...obviously something is happening to trigger this feeling. I had the same concern because my step-sister is a big ho and has a history of sleeping with anyone who will. However, I was totally convinced that my husband with all his faults was a much better person than one capable of doing this. I was so wrong. My advice? Keep your eyes open and trust your honest observations/feelings.
2007-07-31 04:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be your own intuition telling you that something is wrong, or it may just be your imagination.
By any chance has your sister given you any reason to feel suspicious about your trust in her?
Talk to your husband about it. If you hope to have a long, lasting marriage, you want the kind of openness that gives you the opportunity to talk about or say anything. Do this calmly and maturely so that you can try to avoid either of you getting upset.
Good luck!
2007-07-31 04:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by MaraschinoMary 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you trust your sister? Was there a reason that you don't trust?
You did say "Judging from the way he is", maybe questions your trust with him.
Don't ignore your feelings, discuss with him and your sister your feelings. Don't accuse them of something that hasn't happened, but don't blow it off either.
I am close enough to my sister and husband that I can express myself with them in a loving way. Just as you should be able to also.
2007-07-31 04:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by stormey_84074 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be less about your feelings about your husband and more about your feelings about your sister. Do you compare yourself to her in some ways? Do you feel competitive with her? Maybe she has some good traits that you think are lacking in yourself that you wish you had. Maybe you think of her as smarter, or prettier or something. Ask yourself what about your sister a man would find attractive, and the answer will tell you why you're worried about your husband wanting her.
2007-07-31 04:46:25 · answer #7 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is odd, especially since he has done nothing.
Do you not trust your sister? Do they spend a lot of time together? There has to be SOME reason for this ... is your sister prettier than you? Does she come around a lot? Does your husband flirt with her? If the answer to all of this is no, then you have nothing to worry about and you should just not even entertain the thought.
I would also not bring it up to your husband unless you really suspect it.
2007-07-31 04:45:48 · answer #8 · answered by Yogi 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Feelings are great indicators to your emotions, but not the truth.
All you should when you get feeling like this is open your eyes, but hold off from doing anything you may regret.
To help you sort out your feeling you can either talk to a trained professional or a friends to whom you value as level headed.
2007-07-31 04:52:35 · answer #9 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you be jealous of the sister? Knowing your husband wouldn't do something with her, but still feel this way, seems to lean towards some kind of insecurity with her.Just a thought hope it helps.
2007-07-31 04:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by Darcher 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It very well could be your intuition. We have it for a very good reason. Is your sister giving any indication that she is interested in your husband? Do you see her trying to flirt with him or him with her? Does your sister have a history of going after unavailable men? If you can answer yes to any of these questions then maybe you should pay close attention to that intuition of yours. Talk to your husband about your concerns.
2007-07-31 04:47:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋