2007-07-31 04:21:59 · 27 answers · asked by milesrey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why would you want to be with someone for the rest of your live that doesn't want to be with you? It may be hard but it sounds like you need to move on.
2007-07-31 04:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by tlk0408 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wake Up!!!!!!! You can not make him marry you. Especially if he has no plans for it. It will not be a happy marriage if you guilt him into it either. He will end up resenting you. This boyfriend of yours might be a good father but not a good husband so for the sake of the baby let him be a part of its life but don't force marriage. If it is supposed to happen it will. I know the wait may be long but sometimes people have to come to the realization of what they need to do on their own. Good Luck I hope it works out for you.
2007-07-31 04:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by Wilma S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending how important marriage is for the both of you. Did you know that he wasn't into marriage before having a child?
Hopefully this is just a phase he is going through. You cannot force someone to marry you. But hopefully in time what is important to you will become just as important to him. Good luck.
In addition, I do believe in marriage, however, in this time and day so many people are not doing it. If you two love each other live happy no matter what.
2007-07-31 04:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by stormey_84074 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you make someone feel like they have to marry you then why would you want to get married anyway? Making someone do something is not giving them the choice. I wanted to get married too, but then realized that there is really no difference between living together with children and being married with children. Is your signature on a piece of paper that important to you? I would rather wait until I have enough money saved up to have the wedding that I want....without have to break myself of the essentials just to pay for it. If he loves you then it shouldn't matter if your not married. And sometimes forcing someone to do something only drives them away.
2007-07-31 04:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make a man do anything! ask him what his plans are, and if he doesn't plan on marriage then sorry I think you are going to have to deal with it, not much else you can do because you have a baby, it is too late to get out and find someone who will eventually marry you. Also, maybe you might want to think of some of the reasons he may not feel ready for marriage... is he in school? maybe he is waiting for the perfect timing... Good luck!
2007-07-31 04:28:01 · answer #5 · answered by Alexa's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't MAKE a person do anything. Just out of curiosity, why a baby without being married?? Should have thought about that. Well maybe he is afraid of a committment--which makes me wonder why?? Is he still seeing others?? Is he supporting you and the baby properly?? He will take off and you get nothing--without marriage there is NO responsibility to give or support you. ....in any way.
2007-07-31 04:35:58 · answer #6 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, but if he is not ready to marry you, don't force him. Just because you have a child together does not make you lifelong companions. Take it one day at a time and focus on raising your baby. If he leans towards marriage in the future great, but if he doesn't fine. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
2007-07-31 04:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by natasha_526_tx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if a BABY didn't do it, just what do you expect us to say. You can't make people do something they don't want to do! That's why you get married FIRST!
2007-07-31 04:30:20 · answer #8 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't MAKE him.
If you require a man who is committed to you through marriage, you need to make that need clear.
Let your bf know if he's not going to commit, you'll leave. You must mean it though, because he may agree with that choice.
If he choses not to marry you knowing he'll lose you otherwise, you know where you stand and can move on to find a man who really loves you.
2007-07-31 04:29:16 · answer #9 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as the other's said you can't force someone to marry you. if he's getting everything he wants out of the relationship what is the benefit of him marrying you. you have to decide if you are willing to continue the relationship like this, on his terms or if you need to move on and find someone you are more compatible with.
2007-07-31 04:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make anybody marry you. If he loves, you like he says he does, it will come. But it also, depends on how long you guys have been together and if you secure in his self. Marriage is a scary commitment to endure. but parenthood is worse.
Give him something to think about. tell him to commit or kiss your grits.
2007-07-31 04:28:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋