Hugging Other Men Is It Okay?

Question

My wife loves to flirt with other men, I have no problem with her talking and laughing with them. But she insisted on giving them a hug, it started with a just a few but got a whole lot bigger. It got to the point where when she walked into a bar we go to the men would look at her and get ready for it. And when we left she would do the same to say good bye. I spat the dummy and told her what I thought. She has stopped thank goodness but says she still misses it. What makes a woman want to hug nearly every man she sees?

Answer 1

Some people are just that way, they are very physical and big huggers, others are not comfortable with that. It is a good sign that was willing to forgo that because it made you uncomfortable. Be happy that you are married to a woman that is outgoing and obviously appeals to other men and yet she thinks you are special enough to alter her ways.

Answer 2

Maybe that is her way of being friendly. Maybe she was brought up this way, who knows. It is just a hug, nothing else. I have hugged other men and my hubby is okay with it. She goes to the bar with you and goes home with you, what is the big deal? Everybody has different ways of greeting another, maybe a hug is her way. I would not be so jealous. She is just being friendly. So the men appear needy. Everybody should get a hug every now and then. It probably helps them too. I say let her do it. It is a nice gesture. Sorry.

Answer 3

I hug men too and been married 14 years, a guy in the grocery store who is married with kids hugs me all the time as I do him, it is harmless gestures of kindness- I hug elderly men, and women too, someone I haven't seen in a while, and to me a hug is like saying "hey, great to see you, I missed you, you are special". It makes others feel cared for and special. When i hug elderly people, you can see in their eyes that they are touched by it, means a lot to them and it is also rewarding for the person who is doing the hugging because it gives us a sense of self worth too-
Unless it is a long hug that is with the hand up and down the back and more of a physical pleasure, it is harmless. I hug people all of the time, it is just who I am. Makes me feel loved too.

Answer 4

Some women were simply raised that Hugging is as good as shaking hands. I hug men, but I don't hug them the same way I hug my husband. There is nothing wrong unless she is pressing her body so close to their's that they are getting arroused and vice versa.

And you "Spat the dummy"??

Answer 5

I see no problem with your wife hugging other men if they were friends of hers. Even if they are friends she met at the bar. My husband is the same way. He hugs other women he knows. He has always been friendly like that. I just got use to it. I on the other hand am very picky with who I may hug. I don't mind hugging girlfriends and a select few male friends. Its just who I am.

Answer 6

I do the same thing. I am a very friendly person and love to flirt as well, but there is a fine line and we must not cross it. Also you need to respect the fact that we're married. My husband actually loves that I am such a touchy feely person. He says that is a very attractive quality. He is very flirtatious too and that makes me happy he's mine. My whole family is that way right down to my 80 year old mother. However, you need to separate the pigs and which are going to respond knowing I'm friendly but married.

Answer 7

Yes it is OK. Don't be so paranoid. Look, people overseas kiss each others cheeks in some contries just to say Hello including the men. So don't worry about it. Are you that insecure? Grow up.

Answer 8

Don't know, I don't do that. She must be craving some sort of affection. Hug her, touch her, kiss her, crave her! Maybe she will respond in kind to you and lay off the strangers. Good Luck. :)

Answer 9

I think it is fine as long as you can be sure that there are no feelings or emotions involved. A friendly goodbye or hello hug is fine.

Answer 10

Tequila?