what happens when he goes over there to the military school to become an MP? im due on february 19th,2008, if he leaves by mid august will he be back for my birth? how does that benefit me? while he's in training will he be able to write me or phone me...they said he'll be gone for 4 months and 1 week, will i not hear or speak to him till he gets back..?help....he's kinda of a club a holic and he loves his friends, but he wants to join that because he feels he can ofer a better life to me and his baby...this is our first child....im scared im 20v and his 21....any answers to my questions?????????????
2007-07-31 03:52:54 · 6 answers · asked by dat_sweetmami 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First of all, I commend him for making a plan for furthering his career so he can better support his child. However, if he really wants "a better life" he needs to MARRY you.
Both of you got way ahead of yourselves. First comes love, then comes marriage....and then comes the baby.
If he's only going to be gone 4 months then he will be back in time for the birth. Be glad that you have a man who is responsible and forward-thinking.
You both need to sit down and start planning your wedding. Your baby needs a MARRIED mother and father.
2007-07-31 04:01:19 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
It sounds to me like there is a lot that you have not thought about. If you and the boy have been of again on again is that really a situation you should be considering bringing a child into??? Sounds kind of selfish to me to have a baby just because you "want" one now. Research how much everything is going to cost for this child, also with you working all the time who is watching baby?? A baby is not a returnable item if you change your mind later. A child is a little human that is going to need a lot of time and energy from you, when your friends are out having a good time you will be home with baby. And do not kid yourseelf with the idea that Daddy will take care of baby. My husband is awesome that way but I still have the baby the most. The most valuable piece of advice my mother gave me to remember is that when you have a baby, you have a baby!!! You are mommy 24/7. Do yourself a favor and your future little one and wait until you are old enough to be in a stable situation and can provide one for a child. Also when you can think selflessly then you are ready to be a mom. Good luck I hope you make the right decision.
2016-05-18 22:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by joan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answer about getting married first. But not for the same reasons. You should get married first so that you and your baby get the medical benefits. My hubby has been active duty for 8 years (we both joined right after high school) and we love it...most of the time.
He won't be able to call you much during basic, but will be able to call you as much as he wants (off-duty, of course) during technical training. If he leaves in August and they say his training will be 4 months long, he should be done around December, so you guys should definitely be back together for the birth. Good luck.
2007-07-31 04:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by krs_schill 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to communicate by letter; which by the way is very romantic - I hope you keep those letters forever.
As someone else said, he should be back by the due date. At the same time, I suggest you stay with your mom or a sister or someone who can help look after you while he's gone. You don't really want to be alone when you're expecting your first.
Oh, and I second the opinion to start planning your wedding. You're making a family together, that lucky for you, the father is very committed to - time to make it official.
best wishes
2007-07-31 04:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Military life can be good, and joining the military might be what he needs to get ahead. My husband is a Marine, he left for Basic Training when I was pregnant. It was a little hard, emotionally, but in the end I'm glad he joined.
The rest of your questions depend on what branch of service he is joining. Marine Basic Training is 13 weeks and its true that you won't get to talk to or see him during that time. He will get 2 phone calls, one in the beginning and one in the end. Other than that you can only write. Army Basic Training is only 9 weeks, but its the same - you won't get to see him, but he might get more phone calls.
MP training also varies by branch, and depending on where it is you could visit him on his days off - but it might be too far away. It could be 4 to 12 weeks, again depending on branch of service.
You need to go down to the recruitter with your boyfriend and talk to them, that way you will get more clarification.
Also, FYI: Since you are not married you will not be able to live with him at his duty station, unless you live off base. Depending on his branch of service he will be REQUIRED to live in the barracks on base until the baby is born, then he can move off base to live with you and the baby. You will also not receive any benefits like health insurance. When your child is born he will start receiving higher pay since he will have a dependent and the child can get health insurance.
2007-07-31 04:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by Brandi C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a good thing military is a steady job, with great medical benefits.
If he leaves for 4 months 1 week in mid august he will be back in December.
2007-07-31 04:03:22 · answer #6 · answered by spunky monkey 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋