Ok, well my husband got invited to a bachelor party from a man he works with. He does not associate with this person at all aside from work. Ok, anyway here is what the invitation says..." bring lots of change so hopefully the strippers will do some strang things!"...lol, tasteful right! Anyway, my husband says if I feel uncomfortable about him going he wont go but I did find out that most of the other men are going. Honestly I'd rather him not go, but I dont want to seem like a jealous mean wife, lol...seriously, Im not! What would you do, would you ask him not to go or tell him to go ahead? Thanks for any advice!
2007-07-31 03:52:30 · 30 answers · asked by sweetgirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
gypsy...lol, I do trust him and he does "have a life" Im not saying he CANT go , I just have some reservations about it and wanted others opinions
2007-07-31 04:07:43 · update #1
Talk to you him and tell him how you feel. You have every right to feel uncomfortable, I would too. I think bachelor parties are for single people not married. Reading some of the answers on here makes me wonder why people are so surprised when their spouse cheats? Why would a married person put themselves in a tempting situation? It's not like the co-worker is a close friend so he would only be going for the strippers.
2007-07-31 04:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by Cali Mom 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have been to many bachelor parties and have also worked in the "business". For the most part bachelor parties are not even close to as bad as women tend to think. The dancers are very professional. They are not there to have sex with the guys. They dont need to. They make a lot of money without doing so. I assume that is what your afraid of.
Your husband sounds like a stand-up guy just by saying, If it makes you uncomfortable he wont go.
I say let him go. No strings attached. I think it would cause more of an issue if you dont because it will look like you dont trust him.
2007-07-31 04:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by Stuey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been to many places with strippers including bachelor party's over the years. The most that will happen one or two will give him a lop dance. They are there to make many not for sex. I have herd that in some seedy place more can happened. In any rate if you trust him let him have fun and be prepared unless be gets drunk you will have the sex of your life when he gets home. (His mental picture during sex for a while will be the strippers but we'll keep that our secret tease him occasionally during sex say what are you thinking this will also prolong the sex you will interrupt his touts).
2007-07-31 04:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its no big deal, let the guy go. Youll do worse if you dont let him go and he has to face the guys at work everyday.
he is your husband. If hes going to cheat its not going to be with the strippers, trust me. There will be some 300 lb dude there to make sure all the drunk spectators stay in line.
Yes things could be raunchey but your husband is coming home to you and it could end up being a great night for the both of you.
2007-07-31 03:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mergler 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Certainly when you got married, the vows included something about loving and honoring you, forsaking all others.
How is going to watch strippers honoring and loving you? How is that forsaking all others? It's not. It's tempting him sexually away from you and even if he doesn't look, doesn't touch and doesn't tip, it still gives the appearance of impropriety and breaks down the trust you have in him. It damages the relationship, regardless of whether or not he actually does anything wrong.
And that, in itself, is wrong. A man who loved and honored his wife above all others would never entertain the notion of going to a bachelor party where other women were involved. Of course you're not comfortable with him going. Wherever there is a man with strippers or porn, there's a wife wondering why she isn't enough.
Tell him to stay home.
2007-07-31 04:03:08 · answer #5 · answered by ann81969 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My husband is an adult and a big boy now. I would not tell him to go or not to go. That would be up to him. I do not tell him what to wear or what to eat, I am not his mommy. When was the last time you were at a strip club? Do you even know what goes on in them? Do you realize there are bouncers that will break your arm if you touch those girls? You do not have a clue, do you? These strippers are not there to steal your husband or get them to have sex. These girls are too smart for that. The only thing they want is to use their bodies so drooling men give them money. It is all about the money. And, they get plenty of it, I assure you that. These girls see men as dollar bills and they do what they can to entice the men to give them money. Then, the girls go home and laugh all the way to the bank. If your husband wanted to cheat on you he could do so with that cute blonde in apartment 4B in your bed while you are at work. They could slip out of work early and meet up with the secretary if they wanted to. So, you see, men have more of a chance at cheating every single day than they do at a strip club in front of dozens and dozens of other people and those bouncers. Relax already and stop being so threatened by chicks without an ounce of self esteem who dance for money. Come on.
2016-05-18 22:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by joan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would voice my opinion about it and let him decide. I am sure you and him a trusting relationship. So let the man go and shake his groove thang. but remember he is married and loyal to you , he is coming home to you.
Put the shoe on the other foot, Would you go to a bachelorette party, if asked ? You know your strengths and weakness. Let the man go! On that day, shop on him ! Go buy some sexy outfit like a stripper and send it to him on his cell phone. Tell him you are his private dancer ! You might get a rise out him and he will come home early !
2007-07-31 04:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust him? if so, Let him go.
You can benfit in the long run by giving your partner a little space. He'll give you some space also when you want it.
I know that strippers being there is a deterent. but don't worry, he's not the bachelor. They're going to pay more attention to the bachelor than anyone else there.
2007-07-31 03:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by Sean C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want him to go, then say that. If you let him go, then also let him know of the apprehensions as well. We all know what CAN happen at a bachelors party, so just be honest with your husband. He already said that if u don't want him to go, then he wont, so it boils down to how much u truly trust your husband.....GOOD LUCK!
2007-07-31 03:58:08 · answer #9 · answered by Ghetospydr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and let him how u feel if he went and let him make his own decision as to what he would like to do. He's a big man and knows right from wrong I'm sure so just give him the choice if to go or not. You be confident and trust your man.
Good luck!
2007-07-31 03:59:53 · answer #10 · answered by angelrainbows2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋