Would You Let Your Wife Win.....?

Question

We play cards and ping pong, I can usually beat my wife at ping pong but let her win lots of times so she doesn't get mad. The funny thing is she never realizes. And when we play poker and we are the only ones left in a hand I often fold so she wins. I just want to keep the peace, is this right or should I go ahead and beat her.

Answer 1

hell yess

Answer 2

Honestly, you are not a real poker player then :p

As a rule I avoid playing at tables with loved ones (I play in casinos though, not sure if you are talking about a house game or what) for this very reason. In order to win at cards, you really have to throw emotion out the window. The last few times I played, I left my mom at the penny slots and I kicked butt in the poker room,

However in your case, I really think this has little to do with winning cash and more to do with the fact you seem like you are scared of your wife. Sad thing is, you probably make fun of her to your buddies. If you really want her to improve in any game, play FAIR which hey, we ALL have to lose sometimes...that my friend, is called LIFE! Keeping the peace as you call it, is the language of the passive aggressive soul.

Plus, and I am way reaching here...what if she left you? Wouldn't that just burn your balls to know you "let" her win all those years?

Now you kids go play fair!

Answer 3

My husband is the same way. We used to play Scrabble and he would win all of the time. But then I finally started playing online and came up with better strategies, and also learned a lot of new words in the process. He would downright get mad when he would lose. He would challenge valid words. It is to the point to where we can't play anything together anymore because he always thinks I am cheating. He is such a sore loser. But do I think you should let your wife win, no. Why should you? She needs to grow up and realize that it's just a game. She is not a baby and you shouldn't have to pacify her for her to be happy.

Answer 4

I guess it depends on her and how she responds to winning or losing. Personally, I wouldn't want my husband to let me win. How will I ever learn to get better if I don't know I'm doing it wrong? At the same time, I don't care if I win or lose. It is fun to play games and that is what I focus on. The fun I had, not if I won. That said, if she is a poor loser, maybe making a "bad" hit and a fold now and then would keep the peace. Without knowing her, it's hard to answer that question.

I agree with steveheremd. Never ever tell her you let her win. If you want to stop losing to her, just do it gradually, she may surprise you and get better and then you won't have to pretend anymore.

Answer 5

I often do the same thing, when we play foozeball or games on our Wii together I'll let her win about 2/3 of the time.

She doesn't have fun (and most people don't) if she rarely wins but I also beat her sometimes to keep her challenged (or if she starts to get cocky). About 10% of the time she beats me fair and square that's when I have the most fun.

I figure in the end if we are both are doing things together and having fun, who cares if I win or she wins? In the end when I let her win we both win.

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with some harmless tanking to establish a good mood. However, you will most likely one day ruin all of the good will you have created by letting her in on the fact that you have been losing on purpose. Just mentioning that one time will cause the games to forever change as she will never trust that you have not thrown a win.

SO my vote is .... continue the harmless losses to her if it accomplishes harmony at home, but keep it to yourself forever!

Good luck!

Answer 7

When you are married the best thing you can do is cut out most of the drama and apparently she will get mad if she loses.. choose your arguments wisely! I think that by you letting her win sometimes (def not all the time) it is keeping the peace. And besides you know you are the winner anyway so just sit back and grin and watch her gloat..

Answer 8

hahahaha wow thats funny, i commend you on that though, i think that is sweet how you let her win sometimes, but you should also be real with it, ya know? Let her know that you are a better poker player then her by beatin her over and over again one day/night then when she gets mad tell her to calm down and show her a couple of tricks and moves, tell her to embrace the fact that you two can be even more of a team with that game.

Answer 9

Will she really get mad if you always win, or are you just ASSUMING she will?

If she actually gets mad, you might want to gently tell her it is no fun to play with a spoil-sport and that you don't really care to play with her if she is not going to lsoe gracefully. If you just trade off wins with her because you are sweet and want her to enjoy that game, that is another matter and I think it's cute.

Try picking some games that she is really good at to play, so that you can play with all your might and be happy, and she can win legitimately sometimes ...

If there is anger, y'all need to talk it out and deal with THAT issue. Otherwise, just lighten up - who cares who wins? Let her win if you think it's going to be a sweet way to make her enjoy the game, or let her lose so she practices to get better.

Answer 10

I think you are sooo sweet for doing that. I mean you can go and beat her every once in a while but if you constantly beat her she won't want to play anymore. You are looking out for her feelings and that's what men should do. Good job for being a good husband!

Answer 11

It all depends in how do you feel afterwards.
If letting her win and the pleasure that she feel "winning" makes you feel good, why not?
However if afterwards you regret by letting her win everytime, Start little by little getting good at the game and win it from time to time until you always beat her.
Just if you think that it is worth it!