alright here is the deal i'm 17 weeks and 6 days pregnant. I live on my own with my Fiance. i have my own car and pay all of my own bills. we were trying for a baby and got pregnant right away. we are so excited. anyways my mother wasn't so thrilled. why i don't know we make more money than she does and don't have nearly her debt we are pretty good off financially. anyways i was talking on the phone with her and she said that my grandma and her were going to have a baby shower and blah blah blah. she has went and bought tons of stuff for us and i thought she had lost her bad attitude. well i was talking to her a couple of days ago and asked her where she thought i should register and she said for what and i said my baby shower. i thought you said that you were having one. and she said oh yeah but i wasn't sure what you were going to do and i was confused and said what are you talking about and then she said nothing i have to go i'll talk to you later. what in the hell is her problem?
2007-07-31 03:30:03 · 5 answers · asked by Supermommy!!! 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i couldn't care less if she is upset because i'm not married. one thing i'm getting married in march and i have told her that and she doesn't seem happy about that either. personally i think she might be mad that i am getting more attention than her. and that i'm an adult now and i make my own decisions. i guess i use to rely on her opinion a lot more than i do now. i think that she is having a hard time adjusting to the fact that i'm an adult. i mean if she doesn't like my Fiance then i don't know what to say to her because that is not her choice. he is a very good guy. It is true that she has only met him a handful of times but she seemed to get a long with him alright.
2007-07-31 04:00:22 · update #1
jealousy? controlling? i dont know there's a list of things. but just try talking to her and maybe having someone who's a little more mentally stable throw the baby shower. its your life hun, not hers. not anyone elses. so you didn't wait for marriage?? not anyones place to judge you.
2007-07-31 03:34:50 · answer #1 · answered by Jen M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chill out! Your mother is probably still processing the fact that you are unmarried and pregnant. Let her get used to the idea. Once the baby actually comes, she'll be thrilled.
In your mothers and grandmothers day, being pregnant and unmarried was not very socially acceptable. Things have changed and it's not looked upon with such disdain these days, but you will still interact with people who still raise their eyebrows over it. Deal with it. Everyone has their own ideas on the subject.
2007-07-31 03:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sally G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she might not wanna think of herself as a grandma yet, or she might not like the fact the u weren't married before u got pregnant. There are a million reasons y she might be acting this way. Try to make the best out of the situation, and tell her u love her and want her to be part of the baby's life and u also want her there through the pregnancy. If u act sweet and nice it's bound to rub off. My mom always told me to "kill em with kindness"
2007-07-31 03:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jen S 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe your mother is upset that you didn't wait for marriage to get pregnant?
Or is it possible she has doubts about the man you are planning to marry and was wondering or hoping the wedding might be called off? And now that you're pregnant she thinks you're getting ahead of yourselves.
Just some thoughts...
2007-07-31 03:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by Veritas 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Maybe she's giving you a surprise shower!
2007-07-31 03:41:42 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's wifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋