how to treat with drunken husband?

Answer 1

well there is not enough info so i will guess what you might be asking. if he is drunk and he is being rude. just say what he wants to hear. you don't want to make a drunk go off the handle. second of all if he is that drunk slowly sneak the beer or whiskey what ever it may be little by little dump it when he walks off. he will not remember how much he consumed. don't dispose of all of it to fast or he will catch on. third of all just avoid him. say you got to go to the grocery. call your parents of someone secretly to call you and say they need you over immediately to get you out the house. tell him when they call and you are on the phone they need you right away. leave and just stay out a few hours. even stay the night. you can also order delivery of something he loves so he eats and it will help him sober up some. hopefully he is not being violent and there are not kids in the house. you just have to let it be to where you do your best to keep him call. a drunk is not a good drunk when they start acting like a fool. for me i just go along with my husband and try to keep things from going out of control. it is hard to deal with a drunk. the next day you need to talk to him and lay it on the line. he is dangerous or hard to deal with. tell him if he wants to drink like that he will have to do it at home alone and you are staying out. go get a hotel room or stay with family.it is tough because he is not thinking with his logical side at all. be cafefull not to get him worked up. if it gets to bad call the cops. go out take out the trash and make the call. it the trash is not full go find things to throw away fill it up and say you got to take it to the road. you have to be the one to keep it together. he surely can't. it took me a few years to learn to cope. at first i was just fueling the fire and making things worse for my self. now i can handle him so good i keep us from arguing or even fighting. i only fight if i am drunk also. even now if i am drunk i know not to go there and argue with him. unfortunately my night get ruined but i keep calm. ask him the next day to maybe listen and understand he hurts you. even set up a camera while he is drinking and record him so he can see how he gets the next day. again play it safe never anger a drunk. trust me. even me if i am drinking i make sure who is around me knows not to make me mad or i will flip out. i almost broke both my hands because while i was drunk a man touched me. i went after him and i injured my self badly. i knew what i was doing even though i was so intoxicated i could not speak well but i knew he did something wrong and he was in for it. i guess he woke up the next day hurting cause i was injured so bad the next day i went to the emergency room could not bear the pain. my hands were so swollen. i had boxer wounds and was close to having fractures. my bones were badly bruised. took almost 2 weeks to use my hands. so yeah play it safe. now i do not drink like i have in the past but i do occasionaly have a drink. just not getting wasted any more.i wish you luck. get him to understand he scares you. just don't take it to heart he may not mean it. also you can just clean the house and stay out his way. when you drink so much you don't even know you are drunk. he may not even think he is drunk. just what ever you do help keep him calm do not push him into a rage. when he is sober yall need to talk about it and see if he can just buy a little less booze next time. i used to drink a liter in one night now i am down to a pint. i only drink 2x's a month now and not 2x's a week. so i know how he feels and i also know how you feel. my husband my drink and i don't and i have to deal with him drinking. so sad alchohol blocks your good thinking.

Answer 2

I have unfortunatly had two drunken husbands. The first I discovered after a year would never change. Most never do. I divorced him while he was incarcerated. The second I am still married to. He has quit drinking after giving him the ultimatum of stop or I am leaving. He stopped and we have been together for almost 9 years. 5 years alcohol free. You just have to decide you are better than that and be ready if they decide they want to drink rather than have a relationship. It is tough but worth it.

Answer 3

If it's a every night occurrence, the first thing you have to do is get him some help!! if it is a rarity, take pictures to use as blackmail for that new outfit that you want to buy.

You have to be understanding and non-confrontational. Drunks tend to become idiots - the whole liquid courage thing - and don't take anything to heart that he says in his drunken state.

Put him to bed, let him sleep it off and then you can deal with it, and him in the morning. Only time will sober him back up.
Oh, it might be a good idea to put a bucket next to him so he doesn't make a mess on your floor.

Answer 4

Looks like he has an addictive personality, if he is out of alcohol he will be addicted to work or something else, It must be very hard to live with him, all his money must be going to alcohol. this must cause a lot of stress and strain in your life, Children will be affected too, the family dynamics must have changed. Seek help! I dont know where you live for me to give any information on de addiction centers. Check the internet and find some centers in your area. He may need therapy too along with the family members, His drinking must have cause a lot of change in roles too. Do not loose courage but you surely cannot set things right you need the help of professionals,
If this is not possible and you want to live on your own then pershaps you will have to make serious changes, and have a seperation plan. Remember for life to change, you will have to change, and make changes in the way you function. there may not be support from your family because you will be breaking some of the rules which they strictly followed, you may have to be strong. Most of the time we life our lives based on the values we were brought up which in real life makes no meaning. So you may have to changes some of the values. eg, a womens happiness is with her husband. I hope you understand..

Answer 5

Well I feel like one time means you have trouble in your marriage and you need to fix it. If both people are willing and the unfaithful is sorry for their actions. Now more then once then it will happen again and again. But a family that prays to together stays together. You need to seek the lord in every aspect of your life and if you husband does the same you can have a great relationship. I am very sorry about your loss, and your husbands unfaithfulness. I know that must be hard. But I believe you can get through it if you both really want too. And to me you should try. Now if he makes a habit of it let him go. That isn't something you want to show your kids.

Answer 6

An alcoholic relative or love one is a very hard and difficult situation. My father is an alcoholic and my fiancee I guess is border line alcoholic. The absolutely best advice I can give you is go to Al-Anon meetings. These are meeting with people who all share the difficulties of having an alcoholic in their lives. I can't explain to you how great Al-Anon is. Its really good. It helps you find a way to serenity, to be happy, to understand what your husband is going through, how to deal with your husband and to be a better person in general. Please find out where there is a group near you (usually its in a church though its not a religious program unless you want it to be). These groups are the best.

But for now the worst thing you can do is argue with him when he is drunk. Leave him alone, walk away. He is drunk and his actions and words are not going to be based on good behavior. Fighting or arguing are just going to make you upset and hurt. He will probably won't even remember the next day. If he starts to argue, i know this is difficult but do NOT respond, do NOT let him get the best of you, you can just walk away or not participate. When he is sober and in a good mood tell him what happened. Do NOT nag at him or complain just tell him what he did and tell him how it made you feel. Say something like 'last night you came in and you said or you did blah blah blah and when you said/did that I felt ....." Like this you are not blaming or accusing you are just stating the situation and telling him how you feel. Then its up to him to evaluate the situation. He is an individual and a 'grown man' he needs to see his consequences and needs to figure out by himself what is best for him. Sometimes you might feel you know what is best but you can't do that its unfair to you and him, he needs to learn by himself and you deserve to take care of yourself and be happy. When he does make you angry ask yourself how much do you value your own happiness and is it really worth getting mad over? Best of luck and check out the Al-Anon meetings they are a blessing.

Answer 7

Make him drink a gallon of water. A 16 oz glass before breakfast, lunch and dinner, 1 each at wake up, and before bed time and 1 each between meals. Total of 7- 8 glasses

See a doctor with him.

You can guide him and watch him, but he must break this habit and the cycle.

There are places that specialise in this behaviour, takes few attempts , find them near you, admit him in one those institute and see if it works for him.

Answer 8

hi,

pl. talk with him when he is in good mood and take him to hospital to take anti alcohol treatment that is the best solution..

I saw a man who drunk hard and now he is as perfect gentle man..

try

Best of luck you will get your husband as perfect gentleman I will pray for you

Answer 9

i think first try find out he drinks sooo much do he have any problem ,if there is no problem n he drinks because of his habit .then give him a divorce if he has a problem then try to solve it out.

Answer 10

put him to bed in the bathtub lol
but dont leave the water running!

hahahaa