2007-07-31 03:14:10 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i told him no and he held me down. i said no because he wasn't treating me nice. i suspected he was cheating, one time i was sleeping and he rudely woke me up. and once he was just mad that i didn't want to cause he thought i was cheating but i wasn't. he also has a high sex drive nad i work ,dgo to school and take care of our four kids.
2007-07-31 03:23:26 · update #1
A married woman has the right to say "no" just as a single woman does. NO menas NO, even if you're married. If you were forced to have sex against your will, you were raped, and in the eyes of the law, marital status is irrelevant.
You need to leave this man PRONTO! Go to the nearest women's shelter and explain what happened. They can help you find the resources you need to take care of yourself and your children.
Seek counseling. This was a violent violation of you. Forgivness of him won't heal you, body or spirit.
File a criminal complaint against your husband, and get a PFA (Protection From Abuse) against your husband. He committed a crime against you. Do you want to continue to be treated this way? Do you want your children to think that his behavior is acceptable?
2007-07-31 03:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, no matter how much you try, you can never forgive someone who's supposedly loves you, for taking something so personal from you. Rape isn't love, and sex IS NOT a requirement in a marriage. He can also, be arrested, charged, and found guilty of rape, which he would have to serve time for, even though the victim was his wife.
2007-07-31 03:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not a requirement of marriage! He had no right to take CONTROL of you like that! Sex/making love, is something that has to be wanted by both partners and if he forced you to do something you didn't want to or hurt you in any way he is very dangerous and has no respect for you as a woman or a wife for that matter! Any man that is aggressive in any way sexually, mentally, physically does not deserve to have a woman at all! He deserves to be behind bars bending over to take it up the *** by his cell mate! Maybe then he would know what it is like to feel controlled or uncomfortable!!
2007-07-31 03:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by runzwsizorz 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
where is foxfamily located? i know of a shotgun with a bullet with his name on it.
rape is rape is rape is rape. not matter if a piece of paper says marriage, having sex with ANYONE who says no is rape and is against the law of the land. just because she didn't have a black eye or a broken arm doesn't mean it wasn't rape.
if you want to believe he was sorry, then he'll go to marriage counseling with you. you want to KNOW he's sorry, not wonder about it. this is the utmost violation any man can conduct on a woman. in third world countries, a man found to have raped a woman gets shot by every male figure in the victim's family, right down to her 9 year old brother. that's perfectly justifiable to me.
2007-07-31 04:12:38 · answer #4 · answered by Isabella S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can forgive him.. of course you can, but i think the real question is how do you deal with it. If he has a high sex drive and you are not up for sex when he wants it, then you need to let him know whats really up. Regardless if you are married it is still your body and he has no right to disrespect it, you hear me? dont let that fool touch you in that way when you dont want him to, put him back in his place and trust God...
2007-07-31 03:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by Elise G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Rape is rape, no matter which way you put it, no matter who committed the crime against you. Your husband is supposed to love and respect you, not treat you in such a horrific manner! What if he begins to abuse you in other ways? I would do whatever I can to hightail it out of there, for your safety as well as your children's safety. Don't allow children to grow up in such an abusive household!
2007-07-31 04:04:27 · answer #6 · answered by BeachChick84 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honey... its not ok. Don't believe its ok either, just because he's ur husband. Rape is rape, regardless of relationship status.
You will need lots of therapy to heal from this, rape is not easy to get over, but if you really believe he is sorry, yes you can forgive him.
2007-07-31 03:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a guy, rape is rape even in marriage if you say no it means no and no one not even your husband can do such a thing, honestly i think you should think about this and decide on what to do
2007-07-31 04:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by confused 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Rape is a crime in this country. If your husband is raping you, you need to call the authorities and stop playing games with this bum.
2007-07-31 03:53:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make a plan to get out, because it will get worse. People who think others are cheating are usually cheating themself.
2007-07-31 03:31:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋