My husband looks at porn and he knows it really really hurts me. I don't think he needs too. And it wouldn't bother me except he looks at the youngest legal age girls, and myself esteem really takes a blow. I mean it's to the point I want to kill myself when I see the stuff. Anyway I decided to hold out on sex, my theory is, it's me or porn. Does anyone have any suggestions, or things I can do to either get back at him or get thru to him. I'm not looking for divorce because he's a wonderful father, and a great husband (besides the porn).... any thoughts.
2007-07-31 02:51:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
MEN- how long before you would either stop looking at porn or cheat on your wife if she with held sex?
2007-07-31 02:52:07 · update #1
No i don't mind playboy or even really dirty mags, or videos, but he wont watch it with me, and he only will look at on the computer. I wouldn't mind if he was looking at mature adults, like late 20's and up. It's just that he looks at the younger ones, and yes they are beautiful, but I know I will never look like that, and never be that young again. I'm only 24 though.
2007-07-31 03:16:32 · update #2
No i don't mind playboy or even really dirty mags, or videos, but he wont watch it with me, and he only will look at on the computer. I wouldn't mind if he was looking at mature adults, like late 20's and up. It's just that he looks at the younger ones, and yes they are beautiful, but I know I will never look like that, and never be that young again. I'm only 24 though.
2007-07-31 03:16:46 · update #3
What do you think I should do? He knows it really bothers me. I beat him so bad he had to go to the hospital because he was using a separate hidden browser and had literally like 250 porno book marks.
2007-07-31 03:18:45 · update #4
If porn was gonna break up my home then i would cut down some, i wouldnt stop completly because for a man its like we have to do it. If he addicted to it then he has a serious problem. For some guys its like a drug. With holding sex really isnt gonna solve anything because all that is gonna do make him find it elsewhere or just look at porn even more.
Hope this helps
2007-07-31 03:07:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
porn is just fantasy!!! If he's faithful to you and is a good husband and father I don't see the problem. I personally pick out porn for my husband and I even have it sent to his email.
lol it's not like he can do anything with the monitor or tv screen or magazine.
If you hold out on sex it might back fire on you and he might go else where.
I personally would rather my husband be at home with me watching porn than go out after work with the guys drinking at a titty bar, which a lot do honey.
I hope you can see that its not as bad as you think and if he's at home with you that he loves you! =)
2007-07-31 03:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by I'm outta here 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, a guy shouldn't be collecting porn. It's addictive and it takes away from his attention to you.
I don't think it's a big deal if he looks at a Playboy from time to time. That would be too picky on your part if you overreacted to that. Guys are wired to look. It's not personal on that level. But anything more than casual glances is too much when you are in a relationship.
2007-07-31 03:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
A porn addiction is just like a drug addiction. It has less to do with what he thinks of the girls he looks at in comparison to you and more to do with he has gotten himself hooked on something it is hard to break free from.
A man's sex drive is strong and the more he gets/sees sometimes the more he wants. That can be a hard habit to break and may require counseling, not just you withholding.
2007-07-31 03:01:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I read a story about people that went throught this same thing he will start to cheat sex is NOT a reward for doing what you want it is a way to express his love for you
2007-07-31 03:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by yeager 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think taking sex AWAY from him is going to make him more likely to not watch it or seek it elsewhere? Don't use sex as a tool honey, you'll get burned
2007-07-31 02:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by Lula Belle 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
dont understand why a guy would do that if he's married,that must be hard,i've never really seen what the big deal is,why watch that when the real deal is right next to you
2007-07-31 02:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's just pictures, so they don't bother me. I look at it with him and we have fun. I don't think you will get him to stop, especially the way you are going about it. It will probably get worse and you don't want that do you?
2007-07-31 02:59:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The real thing is always better. Give him more sex not stop it.
2007-07-31 03:53:35 · answer #9 · answered by chetter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋