Does your husband get you feminine products or do you for your wives?

Question

Sometimes I get my husband to pick up my pads and tampons. I wrote down the brand name I want and he does it. By now he doesn't need it written down. He gets my birth control 'script too! He's been doing this on occasion since before we were married.

Now he's telling me that the women at the check out give him a look like, "Whoa he's a keeper." I mean, I appreciate it a lot, but a guy who wouldn't do that at least occasionally...well, he's not a guy for me. Is it really that rare?

Answer 1

i do it for my wife, she does her best to take care of it her self but when she cant i will get them for her, but i do keep my fingers crossed while I'm in the isle and while they are in my possession so i don't get cooties

Answer 2

Tampons are as much a fact of life as toothpaste; does he ask you to pick up condoms for him? He's said he's embarrassed, and this IS a legitimate quirk, so in courtesy try to make sure you don't run short unexpectedly. But if things DO happen (you're traveling, and the pads didn't get packed, for example), he shouldn't have a conniption about doing you a favor and grabbing some at the store. Partnering is about give-and-take. P.S. Women have "traditionally" been the shoppers for everything and we're not supposed to be embarrassed about stuff. If you DO have to send a man off for feminine items---anything from pads to a breast pump to personal lubricant, whatever----it probably would be a charitable action to add a few other items to the shopping list for camouflage. Murphy's Law will probably put some 16-year-old giggler at the only cash register that is open....

Answer 3

My dad, brother, father in law, & husband all have no problems going to the store to get me things I need in this regard. It's not a big deal and it's natural!

However, I'm way too independent to let my loved ones get me what I need and should already have on hand. When I got to the store I usually buy 2 or 3 packages and keep them on hand. When I open the last package, I go out and buy more to keep up with the supplies.

Answer 4

I would never ask my husband to unless it was an emergency. In my opinion, some things that are part of being a woman don't need to be shared with my husband. I know this is an old fashioned notion but I don't want him to be that kind of husband. When it counts, he takes care of that sort of thing - like when I had my first baby, he was down on the floor wiping of my legs when I got out of the shower. He takes care of me and in turn I spare him having to run errands for my feminine products. I know when my period comes and I know to make sure I have products in the house. Frankly, I would be embarrassed at my own lapse if I HAD to send him out for tampons because it would mean I wasn't taking care of myself like I should. Unpopular I know and I don't mean to offend, but when I see a guy out at a store buying feminine products, I usually just think he's whipped or has a really mean wife he's afraid of.

Answer 5

I doubt that it's that rare, but when he says that it is probably because he wants some appreciation and you ought to give it to him - men really thrive on it, and they love to do you favors if you give it to them. But when you answer his comment with something like "well, if a guy wouldn't do that, he's not for me." it makes him feel like you don't value his care and effort - give a little and say "well, she's right honey, you ARE a keeper! Thanks for being so great!"

(I say this because I have a similar issue and it's always my first impulse to make a smart comment because I don't want to feel like I'm putting him out by asking him to pick it up for me, so I try to justify it by insisting it isn't a big deal. I have learned it's better to let him know it IS a big deal, and he will actually be HAPPIER to do it; not more resentful).

Answer 6

I don't think that I would purposely emasculate my husband by asking him to buy my personal products, I don't even like the idea of him knowing that I need them much less to go buy them!
Exception, after I had a baby!! And he usually picked up a bag of newborn diapers with the pads, so everyone knew he was a new dad..even though I never used disposable diapers!

Answer 7

I generally took care of my needs myself-way ahead of time. I wouldn't want him buying my pantyhose--too many ways to mess it up. Why put him in that position when you are a big girl and can do it yourself?
He would do it, for sure.
I have bought him athlete's foot, hemorrhoid cream, condoms, or anything else he wanted and not think anything of it. He is my sweet baby!
But now, since I am past all that, I walk down the feminine products aisles and laugh.

Answer 8

I doubt many men do it. Most women still do the shopping for the house hold so I think they just buy them when they are buying everything else. My husband doesn't like to buy feminine products but if for some reason I was unable to get them he would get them for me.

Answer 9

Ive always done it when asked. Have no issue with it. Some do have an issue with it but its just them sure theres things they wouldnt ask there spouse or gf to get. Sure there is some girls who would have problems getting condums,or jock ich cream for guys. But yes sounds as if you have a man who adores you,please dont take it for granted...

Answer 10

I'm not sure if it's rare, I know my dad used to pick up my suff on occasion when I needed it.....but I havent had to ask my hubby to do that yet. I've bought them with him there, but he hasn't bought them without me yet. That might be an interesting experiment to try. I don't care either way, but it would be nice of him to not mind doing it for me.

Answer 11

My guy would happily pick them up for me. He once even got me yeast infection medicine when I was miserable. (We were in college and didn't have a car. He walked all the way to the store and back for me. About a mile.)