Iv been with my guy 4 a year an 6months. Its great. LOve him with all I got to love with. how ever I cant have any more kids. we have talked about it and he has said time an again. that he has never been in love like this. last night I heard him talking and he wants kids BADLY . sooooo What walk away??? or marry him??????
2007-07-31 02:08:12 · 19 answers · asked by ladywolf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Firstly, as bad as he wants kids, and as much as the love the two of you share; I would say sit down and talk to him about it- explain that you will never be able to have children, that the best thing you can do is adopt; If he loves you as much as you say, and you love him as much as you say- then everything will work out, and as much as he wants kids he will choose to have your love rather than walking out of your life *forever* and searching for a women who is able/willing to have children. Here's the bottom line: If you love eachother a lot then the problem with having kids will not interfer with your relationship-it will only make him wanna adopt and be just as happy as if the kid was his own. Be sure to mention to him that you can apply to adopt a baby that's on the way, so you will get the baby a few days after its born-so it'll feel like your own- with the exception of labor pains.☺Hope everything works out.☺ And hope I'm choosen as the best answer.
2007-07-31 02:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an amazing person to consider walking away because you think he might be unhappy not having children. That is very selfless.
BUT. I'm sure he loves you more than the drive to have children. You need to ask him. He needs to be part of the decision. Tell him you're worried he won't be happy a few years down the track when he might desperately want children. See what he says. As some of the others said, adoption is an option (but it's not just as simple as "let's adopt" - it takes time and resources, and some people don't take to the idea of adoption).
Your love sounds special, don't throw it away.
2007-07-31 02:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by Janey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him that much, you're not going to be able to walk away. What do you mean anymore kids? Are those his kids? If you already have kids, then he should respect the fact that you do not want anymore.
If they're not his kids, then why should he go through life without his own kid? You should now respect him and sacrifice giving him a child. How else is going to have a child, especially a child that's from the woman he loves?
Put yourself in his place. What would you do? Good Luck
2007-07-31 02:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you tell him you can't have kids? Are you willing to adopt?
Here is the deal: If you've told him that you can't have kids and both of you are willing to adopt, then do it.
If you haven't told him, then you have bigger problems than this issue. Communication in a marriage is HUGE!
You need to discuss this issue and come to some agreements. If he's against adoption but still wants kids then I think you know what the answer is.
2007-07-31 02:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need to talk, talk and talk. You either need to come to some kind of agreement that you both can live with or go your separate ways.
This could be a huge obstacle in your marriage that could send you separate ways. Why not talk it out now to see if there is some kind of resolution before walking down the isle then realizing later on that you should have discussed it before.
2007-07-31 02:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 05:04:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always adopt. You really need to sit him down and talk this through. Tell him if he really wants kids then you will have to figure out a way. There is always surrogate, adoption foster care to help needy kids.
2007-07-31 02:13:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure he knows and understands that you two will never have a biological child, and if he can live with that, then go for it. You can always adopt; however, he may say now that he can live with it, then change his mind in 3 years, so be careful.
2007-07-31 02:12:26 · answer #8 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, tell him how you feel. If he loves you, and wants more children, you can consider adoption, or if you have children already, he can fill a role in their lives. Making babies isn't the only way to have children....
I hope this helps a little
2007-07-31 02:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by vaughnc5920 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really love u n wish to married with u that not a matter.However u should talk to him n ask him wherther he mind or not.Told him that u don't want him to feel regret after getting married.lf he mind tell that u can't married with him.
2007-07-31 04:21:35 · answer #10 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋