at all friendly, i try to be friendly and nice to her but she is really glum, moans where i put clothes, sometimes i think i try to make people like me too much and try to hard and she is not worth it and I am going to ignore the silly ***** do you think its the best carn,t stick really unfriendly people expassilly when your new should i ignore her
2007-07-31 01:46:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think ignoring her is the wrong way to go as it's only creating more negativity. Whenever I come across people like this{and there are a few} i find that killing them with kindness always works. If you are over the top nice to her she'll have to be nice back to you, and it'll really piss her off.
2007-07-31 02:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how someone (above) can call you selfish from what you've said but oh well ...
It is quite possible the woman suffers an illness or tragedy that you're not aware of though. I had a colleague I felt similarly about. It turned out his one true love, his wife of 20 years had died aged 41 of cancer. Once he felt safe to tell me this and once I showed that he could trust me with his grief (guys are scared people will make fun of them for having emotions), we got on wonderfully and I slowly saw him go through the stages of grieving to the point where he celebrated his wife's existence. He's now a happy, but single man.
Don't be nosey but do give the opportunity to open up.
2007-07-31 02:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by Quandary 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask if you've done anything to offend her, be honest and tell her how u feel about her attitude towards you. If you're not satisfied with the outcome, just stay out of her way and let her be a miserable nasty frump on her own. At least u can hold your head high knowing you've done all u can.
2007-07-31 01:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by panda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just never happy, and she is apparently one of them. They thrive on finding fault with everyone, and their outlook is just truly grim. You are doing the right thing in that you are doing your best to work hard and be cooperative, and I agree that ignoring her seems to be the best bet. Good luck.
2007-07-31 01:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always try to think what could make a person act like that. I mean it's not enjoyable to act that way.
So there's probably alot going on in her private life. Feel sympathy for her that she has to act that way and don't take it personally.
2007-07-31 01:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by bimbo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a word with the manager and request not to work with her again.
2007-08-01 07:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by Snake eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is suffering from depression and volunteering to make her life worth while. why should people be nice to you when you are obviously selfish. think.
2007-07-31 01:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So.... this is the first grumpy person you have come across in your life..... and you are emotionally unequipped to deal with it ....and require validation from a bunch of strangers on an answer forum? Is that a fair summary????
2007-07-31 01:53:18 · answer #8 · answered by eriverpipe 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
my advice would to saty out of her way, dont give her anything to complain about and just be civil, no need to be nice if shes not....dont let her bother you
2007-07-31 01:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kill her with Kindness - it worked for me.
2007-07-31 02:36:16 · answer #10 · answered by bambam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋