hi, i'm a 17 yr old girl. i have a 19 yr old brother...he's really handsome. he's been a heartthrob wherever he's gone. i know it is very wrong to have such feelings but i find myself very attracted to him. we share a wonderful relationship....i've been open to him about my relationships and stuff. i don't want to spoil all that. i'm afraid of how he moght react if he ever got an inkling of what's going on in my head. i really want to stop such things from popping up in my head but i can't. i've tried to distract myself and i'm quite successful most of the time...but everything rushes back to me once i'm back with him under the same roof. he has a way with girls and i'm afraid i'm falling to it even though he hasn't done anything to make me feel anything more than a sister. i'm not obsessive but my bf and my crushes all appear to vanish when i'm with him. what do i do? i can't live like this. i feel so guilty about it. i find myself being to his gf too these days. what do i do?
2007-07-31 01:30:41 · 6 answers · asked by francine 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well, you've got the same genes as he, so maybe you're a beauty, too. Try to focus on making yourself the best you can be and don't settle for a bf that isn't equally exciting to you.
I do think you're a little obsessive, but so are most crushes, and so are many people under 27 or so. Don't feel guilty about fantasies, though; it's probably not as rare as you think. Just a dose of reality, however, if you really act out and are always mean to his gf's, etc. you could put a dent in the great relationship you have with him. Appreciate his beauty, and share affection and remember he might go through a number of girlfriends, but you're his sister and always will be.
Focus on building yourself up in every way and you'll probably turn out to be a heartthrob yourself. Just don't break too many hearts or it'll come back to you.
BTW, I know a woman who used to get it on with her brother. To me that's not a healthy way to go, so just stick to fantasies til you find a bf that's even hotter than bro.
2007-07-31 01:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by topink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should speak to a counsellor or something about it because it could take you down a socially unacceptable path and you will feel even more guilty than you do now. Try and put him out of your mind and remember that he is not an option because he is family. He may be good looking but so are a lot of other guys out there who arent related to you.
2007-07-31 01:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by SmEllY! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Puberty is a hard time, you're just starting to awaken sexually and you can feel alot of intense sexual feelings that are inappropriate. Just know that the feelings for your brother will go back to normal eventually, NEVER ACT ON THEM. If you feel that they are too intense for you to control, then see a counsellor.. even try a phone counselling service if you want because it's anonymous.
2007-07-31 01:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by bimbo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok . u know that is wrong u said so urself so when ever u think about ur brother that way just remind ur self whit what u said ...
try to find a bf that looks like ur brother , and to do that tell ur brother about that .. tell him i need a bf that looks like u ..... so he can search for u
try to hang out more with girls ...
and finally if all that doesn' work refre to a doctor
2007-07-31 01:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by jo n jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something going wrong here.Try to live far from your brother,never take with you anything that remind you to him,get a boyfriend,and get married.If problem persist,go see psychologist.
2007-07-31 01:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by sma s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u just seem to find your brother attractive, but i don't think that u r in love with him. try and find someone who can live up to your expectations, and realize the things that someone does that your brother can't do for you.
2007-07-31 01:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by merri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋