Should couples be 100% honest with each other?

Question

I'm really not so sure. Your opinion, please. :)

Hey, thanks guys, for sharing, and for advice. :) I'm not in a relationship relationship (boyfriend/girlfriend), but I think I should be more honest with those who I want to be closer friends with. It is quite scary to share the secrets I have- though maybe I'm not considering that others have different (or the same) values as mine. Hmm. I'll try to be more open, but it does take time. :D

Answer 1

There is a difference between being honest and telling absolutely everything. Everything you know or do does not have to be shared. Sometimes people tell a spouse something that will hurt him or her because it makes them feel better to "get it off their chest." This is self-serving. On the other hand, if you find yourself needing to do this more than once in quite a long period of time, you need to examine your behavior. If you feel a need to hide things, you're probably not behaving very well. Things that happened before the relationship need not be shared unless they directly affect the current relationship.

Answer 2

You will get a lot of different answers for this question. If the two individuals believe in honesty then they will be totally honest with each other. If you are a honest person you would monitor what you do so that you wouldn't have to be untruthful to your companion. Secondly don't ask questions to your partner if you can't handle the truth. There are questions that we may ask each others at times that put us in situations that test our integrity. If you are an honest person you would be honest to your mate and others. A relationship that hasn't mixed honesty into its foundation will eventually crack causing a serious weakness in the relationship. So in closing, yes we should be 100% honest with each other from the very beginning of meeting each other. If not it when the truth finally does come out and it usually does, it could be costly.

Answer 3

Well the truth is : you can still be honest but miss sharing a few things that you think might ruin the friendship and relationship between you two.

If there are skeletons in the closet - dig a deep hole in the ground - bury them yourself, and never unearth them - ever. If your a catholic, u can do it by going to a confession. After God forgives, you dont have to worry.

Do not share the any single things that may traumatize and jepordise your relationship. The past - is the past, let it be there in all its calmness. Live the life of today, and live it to the fullest.

Answer 4

more like 99% there is always that little white lie that people tell and it has nothing major in its reasoning. if its only a small stupid lie to not hurt feelings then that is ok now and then but for the most part if you want a healthy relationship the best policy is to be honest all the time no matter how much the truth hurts. or atleast i would rather be with someone who told me that i didnt look so cute in a particular outfit if i really didnt and suggested one they liked better. then one that told me i looked great even though they didnt think so..

ok sorry for babbling but i think you get what my point is =}

Answer 5

100% honesty will cause problems. It would depend on the situation.

However you have not been honest already if you are considering hiding something or lying. So you can't be 100% honest.

I guess you need to determine if this is something that will come up again, will they benifit by knowing or will it be more destructive than good.

Then ask yourself are you telling them to make yourself feel better or your spouse.

Answer 6

I have a few skeletons in my closet that I'd never tell my boyfriend about because some things might hurt his feelings. I'm sure he does too. I think it's good to be honest about the things that matter but things that are in the past are best left alone.

Answer 7

Honesty is so key in any relationship. Without honesty there can not be trust, and without trust you do not have a relationship.

I believe that 100% honesty is essential, even if it leads to the demise of the relationship. After all, if honesty breaks you up, you were never really together.

Answer 8

well, i personally believe that honesty in any relationship should be enough to sustain trust and committment to last. there's no such things as 100% honesty, because i think that there are certain aspects of your life that are just for you, certain secrets that is not disruptive of your relationship, but a part of your concept of self that is worth hiding and owning. it's difficult to disclose all of you to someone, especially someone you're not sure is going to be your partner for life, or is someone you don't know what we'll say after the relationship has ended. but i'm not extracting the possibility of 100% honesty, but it can be difficult for couples to give their full honesty, especially if there are no basis for committment. the only exceptions, i think, are people who are 100% certain of the depth of their relationship can full honesty be assured. the only proof of this is when you're in that moment with someone and you've laid all your cards, after which two things can result: betrayal or reaching or connection of two hearts and minds in mutual accord. hope i helped you. god bless. =)

Answer 9

No. You cant be 100% honest with anyone and expect them to not get hurt. Tell them what they need to know and don't be deceptive. If they ask, tell but I think eveyone needs their little secrets, the part of themselves that keeps us unique.
This is all providing these secrets arn't things that directly effect the significant other.

Answer 10

Yes, I believe so.

Even if its a bad thing. Personally I believe the truth always finds a way to get out one way or another and I would much rather here it from my girlfriend then someone else. I fully support open discussion as a means of trust and security. Best of luck to you!