what might be the reason why ones husband will do online dating, and what can be done to stop it?
2007-07-30 23:48:24 · 20 answers · asked by abi darling 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ones husband might be a w****r.
2007-07-30 23:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by rose m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There could be many reasons why he's doing it - one of the main being curiorisity and feeling this is a 'safe' way of meeting other women, without it threatening your marriage. In a way, it doesn't seem 'real', and because of that he might feel it's ok, or risk free.
Most men are tempted at some point in their marriages to stray - whether it be real or imaginery. Of course, that doesn't mean all men DO stray though. For those that are tempted, Internet dating is very easy and something they feel they can get away with, and 'control' (i.e. they don't actually meet the women), without their partner finding out.
You need to confront him about it immediately, because whatever his 'justification' is - it is very wrong of him to do this. It IS being unfaithful and you need to address the issue straightaway, before it gets out of hand.
If he says it's just curiosity etc, then I would put it down to experience and keep a watchful eye out over the next few months. If you gut instinct is that he has been meeting these women and is trying to have an affair behind your back - then he has to stop immediately or you should leave him.
Good luck
2007-07-31 00:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by Clare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriages have problems but it is no way
ever acceptable to have an affair either in
real life or online. That husband is looking for
another partner and cheating by doing so.
A discussion on what is happening and why
needs to be carried out by the two involved and
soon if the marriage is to be saved. If the
husband refuses to comply, the wife should
leave. If she continues to accept his online
cheating (and actively searching for someone
else), I'd say that she needs to work on her
low self esteem.
Why be alone and with someone when being
alone and available is more freeing?
Pepper.
2007-07-30 23:56:47 · answer #3 · answered by Swan Song 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the reason why he has joined an on line dating site.
What you have to do now is talk to him about what's going on with him. What's bothering him. Why is he doing this.
You need to tell him that this is totally unacceptable and the two of you need to work on whatever is going on so you can overcome this problem before it gets out of hand.
This is a form of adultery and he needs to hear from you that you know what it is and it is not something that needs to be going on in a marriage relationship.
If he will go then the two of you need to talk to someone who can help you work through this problem. The minister of your church might do it or he might recommend someone who could help.
Get working on this before it turns into something that you can't handle.
2007-07-31 00:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he would be feeling undesirable approximately it now i could suspect. each and every so often the interest gets the extra sensible of you and you delve into the fantasy realm no longer which skill any injury yet getting caught out none the fewer. style of functionality enjoying in a singular which you're examining without the objective of harming all people style of situation. it is going to actual make it worse you being heartbroken if it rather is the case because of the fact a wedge is now pushed between you - with the two one in each and every of you remoted and feeling undesirable. no longer announcing that what he did is sturdy - certainly no longer - yet to procure to paintings back directly to point floor so right it rather is the suggestion - take a seat next to him, seem him interior the attention and say to him - are you sorry u did what u did? if he says confident then say properly I in basic terms prefer to assert that even however you probably did what you probably did and it rather injury me I nonetheless love you and that i'm hoping you endure in techniques that and don't do it returned. Why do I recommend this? in view which you have taken the better floor. you at the instant are interior the placement of potential. provide it a pass. can no longer provide you a hundred% gaurantees yet it rather is what it is going to take.
2016-12-11 05:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have caught my husband doing it to. I confronted him about it and he did not admit right away. I showed him the print off of his profile he had uploaded to one of the dating sites and he changed his tune. No excuse is a good excuse in a situation like this. My husband has not gone on anymore dating sites that I know of but you never know. The decision is yours confront him either way though but decide whether you can forgive him and move on or if you want to leave him before you confront him. Personally I feel though if he is on a site like that he will never stop.
2007-08-03 09:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by Hannah J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Husband Crazy Or What?
2016-08-11 10:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be various reasons...wanting to play the field...wanting to be young again...wanting that new feeling again...a friend of his could be doing it...some girl at work or a neighbor could be on the same site...what can be done? get rid of the computer...or...shut off the computer...or...block the sites...or...and this is my best guess...confront him and give an ultimatum...remind him of the vow..."forsaking all others"...and tell him if he continues to do it...you will divorce...and mean it...sorry, but, this is cheating too...! Good Luck! And the "I am not happy" excuse is just plain lame people...if you are not happy talk to your spouse...not someone else!!!
2007-07-30 23:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Attraction towards other sex is natural. But as human beings, we want to control something. But basic remains the same. Everything will be alright after some time.
2007-07-31 23:38:10 · answer #9 · answered by RAGHAVAN N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soulja Boy Song crank that?
2016-08-07 09:15:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a fb friend added. How to hide who my friends are on fb ? Dont want him to see it.?
2017-03-25 04:21:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋