I thought living together was all about not being committed. If you want the benefits of commitment, get married!
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/6923373.stm
2007-07-30 23:43:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I totally agree with you...you want all the commitments, benefits and rights of those that are married...then go get married.
2007-08-05 08:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by charli 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think if you`re serious about commitment to each other you should find yourself wanting to get married. Too many couples shack up together, have kids and drift along without getting married. Why? Are they deep down unsure of their feelings and relationship with each other? What`s so frightening about `taking the plunge`? You should also get married if you have kids in the relationship. Marriage is the backbone of society, family life and values. It`s not `old fashioned`. Everybody who says that `marriage is just a piece of paper` is missing the point. If you don`t want to get married why should you have the same legal rights as those that do? This is similar to buying a car and not insuring it, then when something goes wrong expecting a payout.
2007-08-02 02:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by *~STEVIE~* *~B~* 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where did you get the idea that living together is about not being committed? that makes no sense to me, why would you want to live with someone you were having a casual relationship with?
Is marriage some kind of exclusive club that you must join to gain respect as a couple from society?
My husband and I lived together for 3 years before we married, and we didn't marry to gain special privileges in the eyes of the law, we did it to cement an already strong commitment to each other, not because society expected us to.
If people wish to live together they should be protected as a married couple would be, just because they don't have a piece of paper stating that they are in some special club, doesn't mean they're relationship is any less important then a married couple.
Sounds like plain old snobbery to me.
2007-07-30 23:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by Blackheath rugby wife 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
What anyone else in the world does with regards to their own interpersonal relationships - does not affect my marriage or my relationship with my husband in any way, shape or form.
That aside... People have the right to be treated fairly and kindly by others, no matter what legal agreements they enter into. If people are not being treated fairly in relationships with others (or when they break up), then I guess it's necessary for the government to step in & mandate it. Kind of sad, really, that people can't be fair without a law forcing them to do so, actually.
2007-07-31 03:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Living together is not about being committed? Where did you get that from? My partner and I have been together 13 years this year. We have never felt the need for marriage, neither of us is religious, so why should we HAVE to do it? As far as I am concerned, the moment we decided to have children we made our committment. We've been through hellish times over the last 13 years, but we have never allowed them to split us up. We have fought for our relationship, that's what's important, surely? My nephew got married last June, and is getting divorced as we speak, unless you are religious, marriage is a piece of paper that means nothing. Divorce is easy nowadays and Marriage is no guarantee of committment.
2007-08-01 01:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by lululaluau 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Living with someone does not mean you are not willing to commit to them. I live with my partner. I choose not to marry him but I am 100% committed to him, I love him more than anything. I have been married previously but much happier with my life now.
2007-08-05 10:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by milly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not suggest cohabiting couples get the same rights as married ones.
But it does suggest financial compensation after a break-up, based on the contribution to the relationship, and would allow for couples to opt out.
Yes i agree with that if you've put into a long term relationship you should get back!
2007-07-31 00:41:26 · answer #7 · answered by Wide Awake 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
To me, this is the same as saying an immigrant who never got legalized should have the same rights and benefits as an one who took the steps necessary to become a citizen.
If people want to play the game, get the papers. Alimony, child custody/support, equal property distribution and such are in no way perfect, but they are privileges and responsibilities that set a married couple apart from a couple that's casually dating.
2007-07-31 01:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Living together is a commitment all in itself...unless agreed apon BEFORE you move in together...
Marriage, that just puts you in legal statis of having rights to your spouses income and belongings...
If you want to live with a woman/man and not be commited that that one relationship, I would advice not to move in or if you have already, and it creates conflict, move out...
You should have been clear to what type of relationship you were going to have with this person BEFORE moving in and making sure your partner agrees to this...
Why would you move in with someone and not be clear of your intentions? Did you want to create problems? Did you do it just to have that person pay your bills? Theres more to the question than what you asked....
2007-07-30 23:53:07 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Children should be protected. People who mess up their lives and dont want to commit to a relationship shouldnt be protected within their relationships beyond the protections afforded every individual. NO One who doesnt marry should have the protections of marriage.
2007-07-30 23:51:35 · answer #10 · answered by msqtech 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋