left them, met somebody else and then realised that you were actualy still in love with your husband and made a great mistake? did you go back to your hubby? did he forgive you? was it a mid life crisis? When i say met somebody else I do not mean having an affair but met somebody after the sepaeration....I am going through all this with my wifeand kids although she has not met anyone...yet....her cousin tells me that she still loves me..but she seems so distant....has her childhood caught up with her? abused by both dad and step dad...nosupportfrom her adult relatives....i miss her like mad..help!!!!
2007-07-30 22:40:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for the answers so far...they're hepling understand her...I was faihthful to her throughout our marriage...never had the need for any body else emotionally or physically....but its painful beyond all imagination
2007-07-30 23:12:06 · update #1
my husband left me after 18 years of marriage all because he met someone or should i say a co-worker. After 21/2 years of f--king her he came back to me. That was 10 years ago but it's not the same it never will be how can it when he gave another woman his body and love and turned his back on me.
2007-07-30 22:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I understand what you are saying, as i was married for 13yrs and I left my husband as he had an affair with my 1st cousin, i was faithful and we hav 2 daughters, after i left i didnt want anything to do with males for at least 2yrs, i was hurt big time.....I heard that he still loved me and that he made a mistake but i just hated him....So i guess my opinion to you is give her time and space,and if you are both meant to be together it will happen but it HAS to be for the right reasons and the air has to be cleared ...I wish you luck...be patient and maybe you both just need to take time and reflect back where you both went wrong and if you get a second chance what would you do to make it better......GOOD LUCK.....
2007-07-31 05:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your wife found it hard to trust men after the abuse she suffered at the hands of her Dad and stepdad - but she let you into her life, and was let down. It's going to take a long time for her to be able to trust you again, and trust herself enough to let herself feel vulnerable again.
You too seem to be very much in love, keep in contact and don't push her into anything. Let her know how much she means to you, and don't just say it - show it. Take the kids and treat her to something special, like a spa. Be interested in her life and what she's doing. Tell her all the things you love about her. Good luck!
2007-07-31 05:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by Janey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know just how you feel. for me it is best to take it one day at a time. if you have any chance at all don't push her into a point where she will hate you. i still miss my wife everyday,and it was me who opened the door and told her to go, and now i wish i did not say anything. you can just tell her that you LOVE her.
2007-07-31 05:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by pianoman8561 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never left my husband. But, I understand where you are coming from. Give her some space and keep the front door open.
2007-07-31 05:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then you need to tell her how you feel try to help her overcome what ever she is going thru because abuse makes you feel very depressed like it is your fault of something. to answer your question yes but there was no man just depression like i thought that he deserved someone better but with help from him and a psychologist things changed I was abused to so i now how she may feel just tell her that you love her and make her feel beautiful. things like that make you feel ugly
2007-07-31 05:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by Dawn S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋