How to respond to teenage outburst or anger?

Answer 1

Teenagers face a lot of emotional issues during this period of development. They're faced with questions of identity, separation, relationships, and purpose. The relationship between teens and their parents is also changing as teens become more and more independent. Parents often have a difficult time dealing with their teen's new-found independence.

This can bring about frustration and confusion that can lead to anger and a pattern of reactive behavior for both parents and teens. That is, teens are simply negatively reacting to their parent's behaviors, and parents react back in an equally negative manner. This sets up a self-reinforcing pattern of interaction. Unless we work to change our own behavior, we cannot help another change theirs. We need to respond rather than react to each other and to situations. The intention is not to deny the anger, but to control that emotion and find a way to express it in a productive or at least, a less harmful, manner.

Teenagers dealing with anger can ask these questions of themselves to help bring about greater self-awareness:

Where does this anger come from?

What situations bring out this feeling of anger?

Do my thoughts begin with absolutes such as "must," "should," "never?"

Are my expectations unreasonable?

What unresolved conflict am I facing?

Am I reacting to hurt, loss, or fear?

Am I aware of anger's physical signals (e.g., clenching fists, shortness of breath, sweating)?

How do I choose to express my anger?

To whom or what is my anger directed?

Am I using anger as a way to isolate myself, or as a way to intimidate others?

Am I communicating effectively?

Am I focusing on what has been done to me rather than what I can do?

How am I accountable for what I'm feeling?

How am I accountable for how my anger shows up?

Do my emotions control me, or do I control my emotions?

Listen to your teen and focus on feelings. Try to understand the situation from his or her perspective. Blaming and accusing only builds up more walls and ends all communication. Tell them how you feel, stick to facts, and deal with the present moment. Show that you care and show your love. Work towards a solution where everyone gets something, and therefore feels okay about the resolution. Remember that anger is the feeling and behavior is the choice.

Answer 2

Silence is the best medicine . . .

Silence is not the abscence of sound but is the calmness of mind.

When the the taste of 'Real Silence' is given to the mind then every time mind tries to solve the issues and problems using the power of silence

'Silence' is the ability to have patience and is the ability to use the power of judgement (responding only as and when required)

The mind needs to realise that 'emotional outburst' WILL NOT GIVE SOLUTIONS RATHER IT WILL INCREASE THE PROBLEM. Its only through stable clear mind we can attain solution.

Outburst is the result of immaturity and the exhibition of ignorance and fear, and so one needs to rate his quality based on Values. The more we appreciate and adopt values in life the more calmness and success will emerge up.

Answer 3

Probably a "frowned upon" response, but I'd say give them a smack in the mouth. Or get video of it and play it over and over to show them how retarded they are. Shame or pain, I say.

But like any adult it helps to make light of it when they are being irrational. Laugh in their face and don't get emotional with them.

Answer 4

I usually say "your upset I can tell"
Dont get involved

Answer 5

you have more life to enjoy - in this age you must not be like this- you must be cool and make others cool.

Answer 6

tell themr theyre adopted and nobody could ever love theme