if your mate was invited to a 3-day cruise by a friend.
the friend is married also and is the same gender as your mate. the friend is in town to visit your mate.
keep in mind your mate's friend has even welcome you coming along too if you wanted to.
would you be ok or comfortable with letting your mate go on the cruise? if not, please state why?
2007-07-30 21:31:30 · 14 answers · asked by cs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its an important and RARE step in a relationship or marriage to present the gift of freedom when it comes up this way.
No made up boarders can prevent the other from straying, if they intend on straying.
Practicing freedom doesn't guarantee a happy outcome.
But we were all born single and when we die, we do that singularly too.
I will always live and let live and sometimes the only thing we gain is our own sense of integrity and that has to be enough!
2007-07-30 22:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I don't see what the problem here is. Friends do things together. Your mate's friend has invited them to go on a short cruise. You are also invited. You can go, or not.
This invitation does not seem to have any sinister hidden agenda ... unless you are scared that if you go your mate and friend will throw you overboard and steal your inheritance?
Seems a little far fetched, imo.
It seems to me you are making a problem where none exists. Go on the cruise, or not, and let your mate do as they wish.
If you are asking because you have suspicions based on things other than the invitation, you need to talk about them with your mate, not build up an imaginary problem which will just cause your mate to wonder what you are talking about.
Best wishes :-)
2007-07-30 21:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by thing55000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way would i let my man go on a cruise with a friend.Do you know what them cruises are like and what kind of people go on cruises. It's a floating hotel where anything goes and why not no one is looking or watching you. Your mate is counting on you not going, tell him or her your going and see if he/she gets bent out of shape if he/she does then they were planning a great 3 days along without you. How do you know if your friends mate doesn't have someone waiting on broad for them.Just something to think about.
2007-07-30 21:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd probably think they just wanted to spend some time together and enjoy themselves. I don't think there is anything to be suspicious about.
The only reason I'd have a problem with my husband doing that is that I'd be at home by myself looking after the kids while he cruised!
2007-07-30 22:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by Janey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be happy to let him get away for awhile. Everyone needs to get away. Many men plan "hunting trips" I have to laugh at this because most of their time is spent drinking beer and cooking the food we packed them, and then talking about their women and kids at home.. o and sports and the buck that got away last year!
2007-07-30 21:35:55 · answer #5 · answered by ~brigit~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I would be okay with it, Im not jealous person, i trust him, and if he breaks or abuses the trust he wasnt worth keeping. Plus if they invited me too id really know that there was nothing to hide-
2007-07-30 21:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel perfectly fine because I know my mate will not go without me.
2007-07-30 22:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on the cruise, especially if the friend is paying for it...you might as well enjoy it....
2007-07-30 21:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by ogg08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course! i wouldnt mind taking a friend and going too
2007-07-31 00:41:20 · answer #9 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with him it sounds like you need a vacation too.
2007-07-30 21:38:41 · answer #10 · answered by robbodabbo2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋