My neighbor is from the Dominican and she doesn't speak English well. She has been beaten by her husband many times before and is scared of him. She cannot get a PFA because the daughter is scared and will not confess to authority. The psycho husband has been sleeping with this girl now 19 since she was 4. What can I do to stop it. Last time I spoke to (Gladis) her daughter was showering with her father?! She needs help and the cops won't do anything because the kid is scared. Please help!
2007-07-30 21:11:03 · 31 answers · asked by robbodabbo2004 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have had the cops at the home 3 times and nothing has beed done they threatend me because of it.
2007-07-30 21:35:05 · update #1
Maybe you are just trying to make Dominicans look bad and made this up. you don't have to said from what country he is but i think that you are just trying to make Dominicans look bad. But if it is the true than call or whatever you can do to help but wow you are getting to involve in that.
2007-08-07 07:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call social services, but honestly, the girl is an adult now, outside of being grossly taboo, unless this girl initiates anything I can't imagine what anyone else can do. If the cops are coming out, are there no signs of abuse (marks) usually they still arrest the abuser if there's signs, and honestly, she's not a kid, she's 19, and if she's scared she needs to leave the home, surely knows someone she can stay with? Again, she's 19, she must not be too scared or she could press charges...
2007-08-06 16:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by Dolly J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure about laws on other states. but I know something can be done about this. but if you are talking about laws for another country besides the United States I cannot say. but being you mentions she does not know how to speak English, makes me wander this.
and if you knew about this every since she was 4 years old, why is it you did not come out and tell people about this before? but wait 14 years later?
Sorry, but there is something wrong here. there are so much more you are not telling us. I feel nothing about this question. is on the level.
please explain this a little better? and how you know all of what you are telling? 14 years is a long time.? to wait, to finally say something?
I do not like to accuse anyone about anything, but from what I see, either you are involved some how or you would have done something years ago to stop this?
Sorry' but as I tell people. I am not here to get points or to win answers, but to help people. so if my answer is not chosen, I do not care. that is not what is important to me.
but to try and help, and make things right. if you are involved, please do what is right, and help this girl. any way you can. some of these answers from other people are great answers. please go by what they explain and how to take care of this matter.
If you do not, I can see this as a weigh heavy on your mind for life. I can see it is already bothering you, for you to ask this question. so please do something to stop this, or you will always carry this guilt with you, for life.
Please do what you can. and if you are not involved, I am sorry. but that is what I can see from the way you worded your question.
Good Luck,
2007-08-06 09:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about contacting Children Welfare? She is 19, not such a kid anymore. If she wants to be helped, she sure can do something about it. At 19 she can leave home and get a job or seek help from the police. It's a matter of whether she wants to or not.
2007-07-31 04:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, whoa, but i don't understand y these two ladies are putting up with this, i don't mean to be harsh but we are talking about two grown ups here, since they cant speak english well but u were able to understand her. That's how she should explained this to the authorities. I'm mean this has been going on for long it's high time these ladies did someting about it, Okay i'm not from the US but the little i know about it i think everybody has equal rights especial when it comes to abuse i mean they will be well taken care of and that loser should be locked in jail for years. this is really a complicated story i don't think you will be able to help neighbor.
2007-08-05 13:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by 2q2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, if the daughter is now 19, it is unlikely the police will become involved unless the daughter herself contacts them.
Your neighbour however does not need to stay in this unhealthy situation, and she (and the daughter) can contact a women's shelter for advice and information about what their rights are.
Depending on where you live, they may even have an interpreter available.
This website gives information on shelters and helpful organisations within the US. Simply click on the state and it will take you to some local organisations:
http://www.letswrap.com/usadv/
Best wishes in your efforts to help your neighbours escape this nightmare of abuse and fear.
2007-07-30 21:26:34 · answer #6 · answered by thing55000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cops
2007-07-30 21:14:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Child protective services should help, but the girl is 19 now. Unless she speaks up, it may be difficult to get this guy. I would call Child Protective Services anyway.
2007-07-31 01:15:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't anything you can do if she is of consenting age. But you should talk with the mother. I would have to say shame on her, she doesn't seem like a good mother if she let that go on for 15 years like that and especially still stayed with that man.
2007-07-30 22:23:03 · answer #9 · answered by yepyep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry the girl just to get her out of the house if you are concerned about her.Other then that their isn't a thing you can do.People would not believe just how much this goes on around the world and in your own back yarns.
2007-07-30 21:37:30 · answer #10 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋