what do you do if you still love him?
2007-07-30 21:09:15 · 6 answers · asked by anglecakesalfred 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do what i did find husband number 2. I got over my ex real fast.
2007-07-30 21:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to still love him. You may do for a long time.
Instead of "getting over him", try getting "Into you".. you have to find what makes you tick again, what makes you happy. Like any break-up, this will hurt, and it may do for a long time. Focus on what you got to do to move forward. Then do it. Wether its cleaning out cupboards or reorganising your filing, RE-FOCUS.
If you were mentally abused, you may find yourself drifting back to the "better the devil you know" thing many times. Its a process of continuously thinking yourself out of it, and remembering why things broke down. You HAVE to remember the bad times. Forgiveness is not about forgetting the lesson, only forgetting the hurt, and you can only do that slowly..
Start to dream up what you REALLY want - in a relationship, in a marriage. Visualise yourself happy and complete, and start doing the little bits to get you where you want to be. Even if its just joining a book club, or going out with a girlfriend to see a show once in a while. Start to get to know your real worth and soon someone will come around who will help you forget that ex - and the image he gave you of yourself.
2007-07-31 06:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. By taking one day at a time and trying to survive it as easily as you can. Over a period of time.
2. Knowing that love isn't something that dig its claws in you and refuse to let go. It's something you are submitting to, because you want to. I.e. you will be "in" love as long as you want to be in love or as long as you refused to give up that person (or whatever he represents). I used to have a problem like that, even if i tried a couple of other guys, it's his name that i used to have on my mind when i wake up every morning. But the day i realized that he fall so short of "the ideal" for me, that he hurt me because he wasn't truly that guy but a guy i forced the suite of clothes (that i made, and fall in love with long before he came) on, i realized there was nothing i loved in him. He hurt you because he wasn't that person that you so badly wanted him to be. He was an entirely different person, a stranger, whose strangeness bewildered you and whose inability to be what you wanted (so badly) him to be disappointed you. Bewilderement and disappointment: the causes of every pain!! When you start seeing him for the stranger (the alien) he really is, there won't be much more that would hurt you. You know what they say "the truth shall set you free" (and even though i'm not a fan of the bible anymore, I know the truth in that word more than anybody can).
Best wishes
2007-07-31 05:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by Lola 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You move on, dont think of any of the good times, you only remember on why he is an ex. And get more involved and focus on your life.
2007-07-31 04:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go on with life without him...the words never go away do they...all you can do is make sure you are living your life to the fullest for yourself.
2007-08-03 23:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really "mentally abused" you, you shoudlnt love him anymore.
Are your accusations false, or are your emotions misread?
2007-07-31 04:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋