I met this really nice guy..He's been a friend since I was very young. Anyways, I could tell that he was into me by the way he acts around: looks at me and looks away multiple times, always smiles when he sees me, always asking for a hug, acting jealous when I'm talking to another guy, gives me the 3rd degree, etc. So today, my mom suggested that I go find another guy..But, I don't want to since I really like this one.
Is my mom suggesting I do this because she knows something about him that I don't? Or is it because she wants me to explore what's out there and not focus on just one guy.
Please help! I appreciate all answers
Thank you in advance for all your help.
2007-07-30 20:40:04 · 19 answers · asked by tigersnoops 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I forgot to add that he's 28 and I'm 21. I know it's a bit of an age difference, but we have tons in common. We practically grew up together.
2007-07-31 07:36:59 · update #1
I'm also best friends with his sister.
2007-07-31 07:38:13 · update #2
You didn't mention your ages.
I am willing to bet that your mother knows a lot more about him than you do, whether intellectually or instinctively. Listen to her... it sounds like she is trying to be cool.
If this guy is significantly older, you probably need to stay away from him. If he is over 18 and you are under 18, that can be a very sticky situation. Even worse if he is already in a relationship, or if your mom knows of any prior relationships of his.
If you are still in school, you don't need to be settling down for quite some time. You are in a time of discovery. You need the social experiences you should be learning in this time frame.
If you two are still interested in one another after you get out of college, then perhaps it might be worth trying.
2007-07-30 20:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever relationship you may think you have with this guy, it is already over. Jealousy's will destroy any good that ever existed in a relationship. Men are jealous because they are sacred. Afraid that they will not "measure up" to all the other "guys" out there. They use their jealously to control the other person in the relationship. Some men use it to make up for their sexual shortcoming. Move on sweet lady. And by the way, always listen to your Mother. She is the one person in the world that will never want to hurt you.
2007-07-31 03:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by johny0802 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is coming from someone who has a good relationship with her parents...
But, maybe you should ask your mom if she does know anything about this "nice guy." If you are going to get into a relationship with someone then you want to make sure that he isn't hiding something that could potentially be damaging to your future relationship. (I.E. he's a dirty old man and he only wants u kuz u look young... or something equally ridiculous.)
But yea talk to your mom, and then the next step would be to talk to him.
Relationships are stronger when they have open communication. If you talk to the guy, I'm sure he will reveal weather he really wants to go out with you or not.
Also... I have been married for five years now, and yea, it's good to window shop when you AREN'T in a relationship, but if you know what you want then there is no problem with sticking to it!
2007-07-31 03:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by E. Nigma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you are saying, you spend a lot of time thinking about this guy and moving around him. Your mum is probably saying that because if you know the guy for a long time and still nothing happened and still it's occupying your mind, maybe it's time to move on. But if you really like the guy, try to get closer to him. Yes, your mum might know something, but if you seriously think that, ask her. She is your mum, she should be honest with you.
2007-07-31 03:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by shinysunlight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents always want the best for their child. From my own pespective i wouldn't say your MUM knows something about that guy and she is keeping it secret. The fact there is that your Mum has examined the guy's character and it doesn't fits you. So she suggested you go look for another guy.
My own advice to you as a guy is that you should examine you environment properly, you will see some handsome good looking cute guys with positive sense of humor who are always will to accomodate people.
Take my words.
2007-07-31 03:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by theodore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you two dating or still just friends? I would ask your Mom her reason for saying it but jealousy to the point of getting a 3rd degree & etc from him doesn't sound good. But, as we all do most of the time, whether signs are there or not, we follow our hearts. Just take your time & I wish you luck no matter what you decide.
2007-07-31 03:59:20 · answer #6 · answered by carol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows if she knows something.. At least from our vantage point. That is something you need to ask her.. But, she could be displeased with this guy because she thinks he is a nuisance. For instance, getting jealous when you are meeting other guys when he is just suppose to be your friend and giving you the third degree with matters that aren't his business. If you like him fine.. But that might be the reason your mother is telling you to look elsewhere because she may sense something about him that she thinks is amiss. She may think he is controlling, etc. Just ask her. But if you want to date him regardless, do you want and don't listen to her.
2007-07-31 03:51:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she thinks you are too young to settle down with this guy, and wants you to look around at what else is on offer, as it were.
There are several reasons for why your mum said this
a) she doesn't like him because she wants something better for you
b) she doesn't like him because she is jealous and fearful of your growing up, which is normal
c) she sees something in his attitude and beaviour which worries her and she wants to protect you
Why do you think she knows something you don't?
I think you should raise this with her, and ask her what she thinks of him- just have a fun chat.
Finally, if you like him then it shouldn't really matter what your mum thinks, as long as you don't give up your own interests and friends etc.
Good luck!
2007-07-31 03:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by loobyloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is just looking out for you, when I lived at home the boy next door was the same.
Love him to bits did ALOT of things together, yes we did talk about being together but I'm 4 years younger.
went off to work did different things met other blokes got married had kids. (my 8th wedding anniversary today)
He still looks at me the same, but I knew we weren't right for each other.
Ask your Mum why she says this, if you want to be with him.
She just wants what she thinks best for you!
Hope you get a Happy ending x
2007-07-31 03:52:29 · answer #9 · answered by loubie lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your mother why she thinks you should get another guy. most likly she just wants you to explore other people, because you have known this person for a long time. basicly, its a hard choice. just go with what you are most comftable with, if you want to stay with him, stay with him. but remember, if you do try to find someone else, not a 100% chance that he will still be there if you come back. good luck
2007-07-31 03:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋