I'm going back to school soon because September is coming fast. My only problem is this.
I've changed and grown into who I am as a person this summer. I'm much more mature, easy-going, happy, confident, emotionally and mentally strong, and just all out more enjoying life.
What I mean is this, basically. I don't know how anyone will take it when I get back to school. They're used to the hyper, uncontrollable, shy me. This is going to be totally different. As I said I was not very socialible before but now I've just gotten so much more confident.
I'm ambitious and my dreams are almost my reality. Everyone used to know me. But I want them to know the real me. I'm just scared, though, because when I changed during the summer one of my online friends and I had a huge fight. In the end they told me they were so used to the old me they didn't know how to react to the new me.
I don't want this to happen again!! Any advice on how to deal with this or to help others deal with it?
2007-07-30 19:34:01 · 5 answers · asked by devilishangelgirl10 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Summer is probably the ideal time for people to find out who they really are because they are outside of the influence of the cliques at school.
If they don't like the fact that you have grown and matured, it is probably because they have not matured any. Perhaps they still want the shy kid they could manipulate. If that is so, they are not your friends anyway. Don't allow them to limit your growth. Be nice to them but just drift away and go your own way.
A friend will cheer you on as you blast through all barriers, not lasso and tie you to the barriers.
Each relationship is a learning experience. When we have learned all we can from a relationship, we tend to move on to other learning experiences. You will go through a number of "best friends" as you go through life.
Over time, you will start analyzing your relationships. At some point you will demand quality over quantity. Start by asking yourself "what does this person bring to the table?" Do they bring insight? Humor? Wisdom? Or are they a time and energy mooch?
2007-07-30 19:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what everyone thinks!! If you are happy then people will see it. Stress less and worry about how your friends will react. As long as you are genuine and nice, not bitchy or superfical and ESPECIALLY not acting like a bimbo (don't dumb yourself down for anyone EVER) then they should accept you the way you are now. If not, then consider hanginwith other people because friends are meant to support each other.
2007-07-31 02:40:15 · answer #2 · answered by Starlight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i have those worries to if ppl in school accept me for who i am ... you should not make a fuss because the friends you have now like u for who u r not who u want to be.... here is a cute quote "friends come and go but true friends stay forever"
hope its helped
p.s u will do fine
2007-07-31 02:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was that way!! Just do whatever. Don't care what they say as long as your happy with what you're doin and who you are. You'll eventully get more friends cause you'll be more outgoing. Being yourself is always inportant though so always rememeber that!
2007-07-31 02:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by Chaoticxkidddd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be your self
2007-07-31 02:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by John N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋