I know this is messed up! I have been having an affair with an older guy, for 6 months! Um I'm married, how do I tell either of them! I know, I know what a whore but my husband is just a dick he is never here he's always out of town working and the other guy is here for me whenever I might need someone to talk to or hang out with!
2007-07-30 19:16:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok first of all dont listen to these people exspecially when 60% of them are out fu**ing on their spouses or significant others. see people want to lash out their negitivity on others for things they are guilty for. so im gonna give you this advice. ask yourself "What do I want?" then really think hard about it. you cant throw the blame on spouse because he works. maybe you need to let both of them go and find yourself. do you love your husband or do you love your lover? But the most important ? is do you love yourself? you will find your answer on what to do when you can answer all these questions honestly.
2007-07-31 20:15:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you have got yourself into a huge mess. I came on here a few days asking for help because I felt that my husband was cheating. I don't understand and guess will never understand why anyone would do such a thing. I am not going to be mean to you but if your husband is such a dick then leave him and start a single life. it sounds like your not happy there so it may be time for you to move on. don't do the ugly thing. just tell your husband you don't want to be married but don't tell him that you have done such a thing. Just move on. if you have children then you might have to remember your vows? sickness and in healt to death do you part? We can not tell you what you need to do but you did make a vow to stay true to your husband. and you owe this to God think before you continue with this relationship you never know ugly things happen all the time. What if your husband snaps and does something crazy to you or your lover have you thougt of that?
2007-07-30 19:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg I totally hear what you're saying!!! I mean, how dare your husband go off to work to provide for a life for you two as a family!! I bet when he gets home from work, he just wants to relax, too, huh? Doesn't want to pay attention to poor you after a long day. Boy, what a jerk!! You were SO within your rights to break your marriage vows because things got slightly unpleasant for you. I mean, I know women that try to work things out and support their recovering alcoholic husbands, but what you went through... wow... it's just too much.
What else can we blame your actions on other than yourself... hmm...
OH! I know!! You should be angry at the TV for not showing entertaining enough programs!! Afterall, you wouldn't have been *forced* to cheat if something good had been on TV to distract you. The media ruins another life!! WHY God, why?!
OH! OH! I know!! You should also blame society as a whole because they let you think it's ok to do the wrong thing because you were unhappy. I mean, heaven forbid you actually take sole responsibility for not controlling yourself. That's just silly.
2007-07-30 19:30:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
are you planning on staying with the new guy or what? if you want to leave the new guy then just break it off and don't bother telling your husband. it will only upset him. i don't know why people unload about their indescretions. if you want to be with the new guy then tell him you are married and if he doesn't immediately dump you, go to your husband and ask for a divorce so you can stop cheating and sneaking about and just be with the one you love once and for all.
2007-07-30 19:21:54 · answer #4 · answered by Capt Blackie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to evaluate your marriage, be able to explain to your husband how you feel when he is gone, and then tell him that you have been seeking attention from another man because of it. I do not think it is healthy to remain in your marriage if you are not happy with your husband.
As for your older guy, I think it is fair to him that you tell him you are married and why you have been spending time with him. If he cares for you, which it sounds like he does, he should understand.
It is hard sometimes to explain things like this to people, but it may hurt you in the long run if you do not clear the air.
2007-07-30 19:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
You first need to take responsibility for it. How horrible of you. Your husband is out there busting his butt to bring home a paycheck and you don't even have the decency to be anywhere close to grateful.
2007-07-30 19:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell them both the truth and bear the consequences. It's only fair right?
2007-07-30 19:22:49 · answer #7 · answered by snoringcouchprincess 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is alwyas "out of town" maybe he too is having an affair so just tell him that he is a fat lard and that your leaving him for another man who has a wash bored stomach....then go on myspace.com/vytalsuxband
2007-07-30 19:26:17 · answer #8 · answered by J-Money 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
WELL IF YOU AND THIS OTHER GUY GET ALONG WOULD YOU CONSIDER BEING W/ HIM INSTEAD OF THE HUBBY THIS DOESN'T MAKE YOU A WHORE SO DON'T FEEL THAT WAY I'M SURE IT WASN'T PLANNED HAVE YOU TALKED TO YOU HUBBY ABOUT THIS??????????IF SO WHAT DID HE SAY??????YOU HAVE NEEDS TO BUT YOU ARE MARRIED SO WHICH ONE DO YOU WHAT TO BE WITH BE FAIR????????GET RID OF ONE OF THEM DON'T SAY ANYTHING JUST LEAVE OR TELL HIM AND SUFFER THE CONSEQUENCES YOU WOULD PROBABLY END UP IN DIVORCE OR HE WILL FORGIVE YOU I DON'T KNOW HIM SO IT'S HARD TO SAY..............
2007-07-30 19:25:56 · answer #9 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
yes you need to tell him things like this have a way of comming back when least expected to bite you and it happen.s in real life not just here on answers to question.s as well after all he did trust you now didnt he. my opion?
2007-07-30 19:40:54 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋