My wife has cheated on me with this other guy that she has been seeing. She says she will never talk to him again, yet I see his number on our phone records more than I see that she talked to me. What should I do?
2007-07-30 18:29:32 · 12 answers · asked by nystateofmind8989 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get her number changed that way if you see his number again you will know she has been talking to him and lying to you.
2007-07-30 18:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about this but this is not the end of the world. So, don't worry. Don't know how old you are but there are so many reasons why a marriage partner would cheat on the other. To me, it boils down to the marriage couple themselves. How far have you nurtured your relationship with each other? There are many couples who have been married a long time and yet they are like strangers to each other. If this happens, sadly they haven't nurtured their marriage to the ideal one in the first place. For you, I think that you don't even have to bring out the phone records and confront your wife. Starting today, find some time space to woo your wife back to you again. Go out and have a simple dinner at very ordinary places where you could reminisce all the good times both of you had. No need to buy flowers or diamonds or pearls. Those are too pseudo. Just express the ordinary and it would be especially great if you could learn to become friends again. No taking for granted on any matters. No hurting-each-other words uttered. But, encourage your wife to enjoy her life pursuits and you do the same while having a common time to be with each other. Finally, praying together for an endless and closer relationship for the rest of your lives, I think, will be of much help. Have fun!
2007-07-31 01:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by gogogo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, Forest, RUN
Pack her bags the next time she is with him or you think so and have them ready when she gets home or better yet, set them on the curb for her when she gets back from her boyfriend. You could be nice about it and call her boyfriend and her when you put them out there so they can come pick them up before the neighbors get them. Or you can have an open marriage and invite him over to dinner, have a threesome, maybe find a girlfriend and all of you could....
Call a lawyer.
2007-07-31 03:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She hasn't stopped lying to you. It is really your call as to what you want to do about it. However, if she promised she would stop communicating with her BF but is still doing so then it looks like she really isn't interested in working to make the marriage work. I'd see a lawyer.
2007-07-31 02:19:27 · answer #4 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH..... okay, you either need to reconnect as a couple, or seek therapy. a woman cheats due to lack of emotional intamacy. this will not get better unless you guys are back in touch with each other. make sure she is not just a cheating person. best of luck to your marriage ;)
2007-07-31 01:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by ★SuGar and SpiCe★ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, I would be done. There is a lot of women that do not cheat . There are lots of things I could deal with and have, but cheating NO WAY.
2007-07-31 02:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by margo322 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust has to be earned. She is not trustworthy right now. Until she is...I would not waste my time I would have to separated/divorce.
You need to talk to a counselor, pastor, etc.
2007-07-31 01:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by mbpowell1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to her seriously or maybe your relationship is not working anymore don't feel bad its not always the guys fault, I'm sure you can deal with this!
2007-07-31 01:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by angel star 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a lawyer.
2007-07-31 01:54:19 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kick her to the curb! She's lying to you.
2007-07-31 01:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by likewhoa88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋