What is the first bad habit that usually is "revealed" from your bf/gf/spouse?

Question

...and how long did it take you to get to that point in the relationship?

How long did it take you to be able to go #2 in front of them (with the bathroom door wide open)?

When a couple does things like fart, pick their nose, or use the toilet in front of each other, what is lost and what is gained in the relationship?

Does this harm the overall attraction factor? Do some of you still hide these things from each other even though you're married or have been together for a long time? Has it kept things more "mysterious"?

Do you or they compare your habits to their ex's?...like saying things such as, "If I knew you farts were this bad, I would've stayed with my ex!" LOL.

As far as going #2 with the door open, I have a friend that says his wife sits on his lap while going #2.

Answer 1

Well I have always said that once they start passing wind in front of you its all over. Meaning they are well and truly comfortable and the pretend is over.

I don't think the attraction is gone, just the lust factor may be over....but being comfortable and relaxed around your partner without all the act is a release (no pun intended) and wonderful. Its probably around the stage when you both have well and truly fallen in love and are just settling in properly together, discovering what you both are truly like.....marriage material or not.

Answer 2

First of all, I don't know anyone that goes to bathroom with the door open. Doing #2 in front of someone is nasty. When a couple farts, pick their nose or does any of the nasty things you described, respect for each other is lost. All you gain is disgust when either spouse does that stuff. Yes, it harms the overall attraction factor. Who is going to be attracted to someone doing that constantly. Each person needs their privacy and their own space to do those things or anything else. If couples wish to share this stuff, then there must be some sort of acceptance and understanding, I guess.
I think when you do stuff like that in front of a stranger or a spouse, it says a lot about that person and how they were raised.

Answer 3

You can make light of all of this....We all do pick our nose at times. We all stink when we take a poop, we all fart at times, darn those beans. It does not harm the attraction factor. What you have to take into consideration does your mate to be have such a annoying habit? Remember people for the most part do not change. I saw a keeper is one who can hold your head when you puke. Go to the store when its pouring rain because she just has to have that candy bar..Mysterious does not last low. Being playful, laugh at one self. I was married for 37 years. Loved it all..He died 8 years ago..Don't sweat the little things...enjoy!!!

Answer 4

The first bad habit that I noticed about my wife (12 years ago) is that she has no problem interrupting you mid sentence if she has something SHE thinks is more important to say. It bugs the hell out of me! The first few years she would apologize for it. Now? Now she says that after 12 years I should be used to it by now. Other bad habits my wife has.....

* Well NEVER throw away the tags from new clothes. Always leaves them on the bathroom sink.

* leaves her pajamas on the bathroom floor.

* When she goes #2, she won't turn on the fan or light a match.

* She complains that I dont' put my dishes in the sink, but she won't even rinse her dishes off if the dishwasher is full.

* She'll let trash pile up to the ceiling before taking it out. Says it's my job.

* Always has time to go scrapbooking with her sisters, to the mall, to tan, to get her nails done, or to lunch with her friends. But says that taking care of our 15 month old twins keeps her from doing a load of laundry or making the bed!

Answer 5

LOL, good question, I like the farting and nose picking comments.
9 months later, i haven't farted yet, but he did in his sleep last night. Doesn't bother me.
The bad habit that was revealed to me was a horrible temper when we get into a fight. I mean HORRIBLE. I told him he better watch it because he is going to sabatage the relationship.

Answer 6

For years in piano I had undesirable behavior; my best concern grew to become into that i did no longer shop my wrists up and raise my arms. on an analogous time as this may be a extraordinarily familiar ingredient for babies (as a instructor I had to remind them *each and every* week), my behavior carried over longer because of the fact of my previous piano. It grew to become into from around the turn of the century and the action grew to become into completely shot; i did no longer could desire to word any actual stress to the keys to get them to play. I have been given over it at as quickly as when I switched to a Steinway, although that's a large reminder that the conventional of the piano does count huge sort! the feel of the keyboard is so considerable. Now i'm so picky i do no longer think of I fairly have any undesirable behavior... the only ingredient i'm able to think of of is that I each and every now and then tuck one leg below me when I get stiff. no longer precisely suited posture :) As a violist I probable had the international checklist for undesirable behavior. My grip on the bow grew to become into completely incorrect, I constantly bowed over the fingerboard, I slouched, and for years I tucked in the wrist protecting up the viola when I have been given drained. I relied too lots on nice tuners and can pretend whilst the orchestra grew to become into meant to track. whilst i grew to become into little i might additionally many times pretend throughout orchestra rehearsals. So did the girl next to me- as quickly as she saved "bowing" silently after the orchestra had complete and have been given caught. a minimum of i grew to become into greater convincing! are you able to tell I hated viola? I end practically ten years in the past...

Answer 7

always hold back if your a lady keeps them guessing hell they might think you dont even poop.. lol that keeps them pickin on you or askin you do you ever have gas ever... i think its funny never let it all out they might laugh if you do all those things in front of them or even pretend your cool then next thing you know they are chasin some hot chic around cuz his gf is so gross lol

Answer 8

1 - talking too much, 2 - 2 minutes, 3 - 2 weeks, 4 - not bloddy much, 5 - no no and no.

Answer 9

I think that tehse are all questions you really need to ask yourself. There is no one who can answer these personal questions about a relationship that you are wondering about.

Answer 10

i think the first bad habit would be smokin or drinkin and fartin , in that order. nothin gained nothins lost just respect.