ok so my best friend is having a party at her house this sunday and its also my birthday and my cousins christening. my mom said i'm not allowed to go because its my cousins mom special day and shes not leaving the party for the christening to take me to my friends house. my friend is having the party from 2pm-10:30pm and the party for the christening starts at 2pm. i asked my mom if i can maybe go to the christening party for 2 hours and then go to my friends house afterwards and she came out and said "NO! absolutely not! its becky's special day and i am not leaving the party to take you to your friends house!" but its my special day too! its my birthday :( i don't understand why i just can't go to both. do you think this is fair? i'm 15 btw, and i'm a good kid, i really don't think this is fair at all!
2007-07-30 15:56:32 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am a parent and that is awful, but I hate to be a spoiler, but maybe your mom has planned something special. I couldnt see any other reason to why your mom would not let you do what you want on your birthday unless she has something already planned, and not involving your cousin but because its your birthday and she may have gone out of her way to already do something for you and you just dont know it. I hope this is reason if not than your mom is being a bit mean.
2007-07-30 16:05:23 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn N Kentucky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That really is not fair -- and bizarre, actually. You're right. It is your special day, too.
If the only thing that is stopping you is transportation, can you get a ride to your friend's house after the christening party? You should beg a friend to pick you up. Will your mom let you go? Maybe you should bargain with her and do the christening thing for four hours instead of two.
2007-07-30 16:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to respect the fact that your mom wants you too be around for this "Christening." i know that its not fair that you have to stay and not go too your friends, but this is the only time this christening will happen. There will be other parties. Sit your mom down alone and tell her that you want to be there for your cousin, but you are also turning 15, its your day too, and you would like to spend it at a party for the night. tell her that you will even take your cousin along if you really want to score points! she will most likely give in. If she dosen't then respect where she is coming from, and leave the fight alone. Good Luck!
2007-07-30 16:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by Eddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will your best friend's parents be at the home? If so, I would have you go to the christening. Ask around and see if anyone else will be late. Maybe their parent could stop by and get you at the same time. Then your Mom could bring each of you home. That way each parent only has to make one trip. Don't whine about it being "fair." Act mature and see if you can somehow work out a compromise. Maybe you can help with cleaning or something on Saturday. Act 15 and I think it will work out for you.
2007-07-30 16:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to do both still. Push for it but don't beg. Maybe 2 hours at the christening and then get a ride to the party from someone else? Maybe another close relative or someone who's leaving early? Maybe one of your friends who is going to the party can pick you up if she's going later or something?
Good luck
2007-07-30 16:13:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not seem fair...
but 9 out of 10 times parents have your best interest in mind..
Have you consider another compromise since it's your birthday.. another relative could drop you off? you take public transportation someone from the party can pick you up?
Remind your mom that this your special day also, can you have a compromise...
Happy birthday whatever may be decided.
Celebrate in the blessing that you are another year older...and closer to 18 years or 21 years.. where these dilemmas will be a thing of the pass. (smile)
2007-07-30 16:15:42 · answer #6 · answered by CURIOUS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family comes first. I know it doesn't seem fair, but look at it from your mother's point of view. She wants you there with her because it is both your birthday and the christening, both are special events...there will be tons of other parties you can go to. You aren't being punished.
2007-07-30 16:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if a friend or a friend's parents were willing to pick you up at the christening party to bring you to your friend's house? Perhaps this might be a compromise your mother would agree to.
2007-07-30 16:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't see why she just can't do something for you on your birthday that would mean a lot to you too. You'd be full-filling your obligation w/the Christening, & I can't see any problem why you can't have your couple hrs. of happiness, especially since it is your B.D. too. Do you think she'd mind if someone would be able to pick you up to take you to your friend's house? I'd just tell her how important it means to you & you don't understand why she's so adamant on you having to stay w/her. Tell her it's YOUR "special day" too, shouldn't you deserve to have a little happiness on your B.D. too? Good luck, I hope she changes her mind.
2007-07-30 16:06:34 · answer #9 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attending family affairs are important, but if it's also your birthday that day...I agree that your mom should make some type of compromise with you. I don't think that's unreasonable. There's no reason you can't attend both. People do it all the time. If you didn't go to the family function at all, that may be a bit rude, but you obviously don't have a problem going for a little bit.
2007-07-30 16:01:54 · answer #10 · answered by C.Lee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋