okay.....is it normal to worry bout the future when your preggo......such as im worried about my baby hating me i am almost 9 weeks and the dad wants nthing to do with us......and for some reason right now its botherin me...im wonderin....if i should be concerned with this right now im worried about the baby and stuff and if it will hate me and such later on for it not being planned and the dad hating it i wanna cry and yet im happy too wats going on
2007-07-30 15:24:48 · 6 answers · asked by mommyof3 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It's normal to worry about everything when you're pregnant.
It's hard to go through pregnancy and child birth alone and even harder to raise a child alone but it's very rewarding. The child will not hate you for not being planned, it will resent his/her father for being gone but not you.
You will be fine. Try to relax. Talk to your friends and family.
2007-07-30 15:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by I ♥ old VW's 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the life of a pregnant woman and mother! This and many more questions will float through your mind during your pregnancy and they don't stop when the baby is born. sorry to say but as a mum you will always be wondering if your child loves you or if they hate you or if you're doing the righ thing.
Don't concern yourself with it too much. Everyone has the same thoughts but its a matter of not sweating the small stuff you can't change and only tackling the things that you can control.
Enjoy being pregnant, don't worry about the dad. Find a family member or close friend to help you through the pregnancy and beyond. You have already shown your baby that you are a great mother by keeping it close inside you and deciding to care for it.
You have a long way to go before you get to meet him/her so enjoy this time and stop stressing about the future. Your child will love you no matter what because they don't know any different.
2007-07-30 22:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't advise really on the father, because my situation is different. But I can tell you that I worried over whether the baby would like or hate me, and even whether I would love my baby. Don't worry about that part--it's just hormones. I think a lot of us go through the whole "will my baby love me" thing.
The baby won't need to know anything about his father or whether or not he was planned until he's much, much older. Lots of moms raise their children without the biological fathers involved at all, and usually those kids don't give a hoot about whether or not their fathers care about them because their mothers show them all the love they need.
2007-07-31 01:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by mommymartin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is completly normal because its just your pregnancy hormones. Ive had all kinds of fears and feeling and I was reading about them today in a pregnancy book and having fears while pregnant is very common. Dont worry so much enjoy your pregnancy and be happy try not to think about the dad. Try and take your mind of it go make a day to spend with your friends tomorrow or do something for yourself. Good luck!
2007-07-30 22:30:11 · answer #4 · answered by ஐ♥Sabine♥ஐ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It made be hard, but you need to try not to worry about it. Stress isn't good for your child. All kids go through fits where they say they 'hate' their parents.. most of the time it's not true. Just be a good mother. Support your child and take good care of them. Also try to be involved in its life, but don't be controlling over it. You'll be fine. Good luck with your baby and Congratulations.
2007-07-30 22:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by kerr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please get to a support group for single mothers.
2007-07-30 22:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋