I am 6 months pregnant and me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months but I am not sure if he is the?

Question

father because 3 days before me and him got together I was still messing with my ex but me and my ex have been together for 10 months and I never got pregnant by him before so I am wondering If that last time we where together if that might have been that one time he could have gotten me pregnant I didnt get my period in january and i meet my current boyfriend at the end of february but as of june i am 6 months pregnant and me and my current boyfriend live together I am scarred to ask for a paternity test because i told him this was his baby because I feel as though it might be his im not sure and my ex boyfriend drank alot and smoked weed alot so i didnt think it was possible for him to get me preganant but i dont know need some help

Answer 1

You need to be honest with your current boyfriend NOW and tell him there is a chance the baby might not be his, get a paternity test. If you don't tell him and the baby turns out not to be his and your ex finds out there will be bunches of legal issues. You have to be honest and upfront with your current boyfriend. If he loves you he will support you even if it's not his baby.

Answer 2

I had just turned 23 when I got pregnant with my first. I thought I finally had my life together as I just started back to college then I found out I was pregnant. My fiance (hubby now) and I had just gotten engaged and we each lived at home with our own parents still. I don't have Bipolar disorder but I know it can't be easy. Have you taken any meds that may affect the baby? You should get that checked. I was not going to keep my son (I found out early enough and was going to have an abortion) but decided I could make it happen if I wanted to. He is now 8 1/2 and I also have a 4yr old and another on the way. All with the same father who I am happily married to. It won't be easy but it parenthood never is. You have to take your baby's best interest in to consideration. Will you be able to handle this child as it gets older when you are in the middle of an episode? Can you control your episodes by meds or do you prefer to be med-free? It is a tough call. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 3

The only way around it (and I'm not necessarily encouraging this..) is to only ask the ex to submit to a paternity test. If he's ruled out, then you know it's the current b/f's, and the current b/f never even knew there was a question. The risk here is if you do wait until the end of the pregnancy to test your ex, and then find out that he IS the father, your current b/f will be VERY upset that you hadn't warned him of the possibility before.

My best advice: if the shoe were on the other foot, how would YOU want to be treated?

Answer 4

I am not sure where online but I know there is a place where you can order a kit (for like a $50 fee) and take samples from the baby and possible father, you then send them in and they mail you the paternity test back. That way you can find out before you break a fathers heart. And if he isn't then he deserves to know, but give him the choice of being there as the father.

Answer 5

You need to be honest. This happened to an aquaintance of mine. She thought the baby was her current boyfriend's- but she and her ex had one last fling. Guess what? The current boyfriend- and the baby was dark, dark italian as in the ex. It was pretty clear at birth whose it was, but she denied it until he found a picture of the ex. Paternity tests were done- and it was the ex's. IT ONLY TAKES ONE TIME!!!

How old are you? Sweetie- you need to go to school and educate yourself...no punctuation and I had a very, very hard time reading that.

You need to tell them both- and have them get prepared for a paternity test.

Answer 6

It is best to talk to your current boyfriend, tell him honestly that you were still messing with your ex days before you got together with him. BUT also assure him that you have not been in contact with your ex since. Tell him you are worried that the kid might not be his and also explain that you lied to him earlier on because you were scared.

If this guy gets angry and scooted, he would not have been suitable to be a Dad. And the ex who smoked weed and drank till he's pissed isn't going to be a good Daddy as well.

I recommend breaking the truth to your boyfriend ASAP to avoid further complications. Don't try to lie again as it is just going to harm the relationship. Good luck!

Answer 7

that's a sticky situation isn't it? If I was you I would tell your current boyfriend the situation obviously it'll cause a fight,but it's really the right thing to do he should understand because you guys weren't together at the time and honestly unless he's stupid he already suspects something or someone around him does, it's best to put every thing out there in the beginning and let the chips fall where they may. oh and that thing about smoking weed making a guy infertile is a myth.

Answer 8

Not as impossible as you may think. You should definately tell him. If you didn't cheat on him then why worry about it, he would have no reason to be mad...unless you lie from the get go. Besides what if you stick to the lie and the baby looks like your ex or if the ex suddenly decides he wants to be a dad and you man finds out that way. It may or may not be your man's but for the sake of your child if nothing else you should find out. Good Luck!

Answer 9

honesty is always best... there is a good chance it is your ex's baby if you didnt have your period that month. i dont see how him smoking and drinking would prevent you from getting pregnant. i dont know your current boyfriend, but i dont think he would get too upset over it. it happened before you were together. just next time, tell him the truth off the bat.

Answer 10

uh oh... okay here is the deal: even if yopu smoke weed and drink, you can get a woman preg. Think all thesekids with druggies for parents... anyways, there is still a good chance that ur current man is the father. A woman is more likely to get preg by a man she just started sleepin with, because your body is not used to the new sperm entering your body.. Good luck, I hope your current man is the daddy...