do you prefer to conform or go against the trend?

Question

im having problems with some of my classmates, just because i am always wearing black and not acting like paris hilton, and just because i dont join their club. they would actually plot something against me, to the point of texting me, to be careful when i go home cause i might get into serious trouble
they have been calling me a poser just because i dont join their bands or go drink beer with them,ive been pretty much of a loner and it seems as though they think that i dont go with the because i feel superior, which is never actually the reason why, i just love reading alone and writing novels at home and thinking things through,i dont know why they hate me that much, just because i dont act like them, i dont even care if they love to wear pink that is their life, why do they need to bother me, and even want to harm me, some people are just and that they even make me a topic or an issue in their life when i have nothing against them, i dont even know that they know my name,

Answer 1

I used to rebel against popular culture because I did not want to be controlled. Then I realized that in a way I was still being controlled by rebelling against popular culture. I had to step back and evaluate things for myself. It is no good if one does not do something because they do not want to be like other people. It is good if someone does not do something because they do not want to. Always pay attention to your motivations for doing, or not doing something.

Answer 2

Like you, I prefer to be a loner but as we both know, it is not because we feel superior, is it ?
I too write in solitude but most of my best creations came from getting a broken heart or finding a new love but both of these require some involvement with others, don't they?
If you are really "always" wearing black, then you are actually conforming to an idea that you chose yourself as to the meaning of wearing black all the time. (witness Johnny Cash)
Depending on the direction of a trend it might be fun sometime, just to go along and find out why it's trending in that direction but of course, you ALWAYS have the option of reversing your decision at any time but sometimes, breaking through barriers requires a little courage, which can SEEM scary but it is much easier than you might think and discovering your own power to go any direction you please is really quite fun and in the final analysis what those other people think of you is really not important.
A wise woman wrote a book entitled: What You Think of Me is None of My Business . Recommended reading for anyone still in school; at any age.

Answer 3

You sound like a libertarian, someone who believes in "live and let live." Yes, you can take that as a compliment.

When you say "school," I assume you don't mean college, and I'll tell you why. Teenagers are funny people, they're all about rebellion but in fact teens are some of the most conformist people around. (Lol, how DARE you go against the crowd!) And I say that as someone who works in a Big Evil Corporation™.

Take heart in knowing that things totally change once you hit college. You can completely be yourself and people will accept it. It's like once you graduate from high school, peer pressure just goes away. Partly it's because in college everyone is mixing with a new crowd, but also just because people tend to be more mature and accepting (no offense to your age group).

Until then, you're just going to have to decide whether the hassle of being yourself is worth the peer pressure to conform. Personally, I'd stick with being an individualist. Trust me, you won't regret it. I know loneliness is hard at your age, but anyone who thinks _you_ need to fit in to belong will turn on you like a jackal.

Oh, and if they're texting you threatening messages, save them. Hopefully it's all just bluster on their part, but if things get too bad you'll want to have some evidence. Threatening physical violence is NOT cool.

Answer 4

I like to sometimes be alone too, but I think everything is better in moderation (except for stupid trends that do no good for anyone and that just waste money). Try to find people like you so that you can still go out while still being yourself and not being pressured into doing anything you are not comfortable with. No matter what you do you will always conform to something. Since we are constantly in contact with eachother, you would have to be a hermit not to conform.

Answer 5

I normaly do my own thing :) But i also don't stick out :P If it happens to be like the trend, so be it. If not, ok. The only thing i consider to be evil is doing something soley for the sake of harming another living being :) For example: killing someone for an intention to do urself better (even it it is selfish like to gain more money) i don't consider nessasarily evil. But even calling someone "blockhead" so that they might feel hurt, i would consider that evil :P

:O I know what would probably reall agrivate them, and it's fun in the process! :) It's simply smiling. Lol xD Not much is funnier than when someone is trying to do you harm and you just smile and are unharmed lol. You are a VICTOR, not a loser ;) Do what you love, and don't what you don't.

Answer 6

From my intense college journey it is not how anybody thinks. confident there are going to be you're silly acquaintances who mean no longer something yet harm, yet push aside them. i could say i did no longer fairly non comply with the dark scene, yet I in no way joined activities, talked little and spent time with a small crowd. i might advise looking some others that share some factors of view different than being non comformist, mutually with do you have an off activity in some thing you will possibly frequently no longer evaluate, tennis, gathering stamps (in basic terms throwing some regularly occurring issues available). you're able to be able to could desire to strengthen your horizons slightly yet there are constantly human beings, 6 billion is not any small mass. additionally as much as you will possibly hate it, do no longer hearth back to teases and prods, its all a interest that quickly will become ineffective as commencement comes closer, as in the government, any extremist action hurts us all.

Answer 7

I understand your situation all too well. I too have been an outcast, on the outside looking in.
But I was never weak/ dumb to conform because I felt strongly 'bout my identity and I was proud of it.
So what, if it excluded me from others?
It's their loss anyway. Live your life by your own rules.
Hope that helped.

Answer 8

I don't believe in the words 'trend' and 'conform' they make you sound like you're either into something or you're not,when actually you can do both.I think everyone is their own person,but the 'trend followers' are people who are natural born followers,other are natural born leaders.

Answer 9

i prefer not to comform - but sometimes i need to check with myself if something really fits in with ME , or i am rejecting it just for the sake of non-conformism .
sounds like some of your class are immature bullies to me ,
a word of advice though , its unlikely that they are all really the same , even though they may conform to a lot of the superficial trends . of course they are going to feel rejected if you keep turning down their attempts at frindship ; i am definetely not saying you hold just go along with things to be nice btw!!! but maybe just keep it in mind .

Answer 10

Whichever I feel like doing. As long as you're being yourself and doing what YOU feel like doing and being who you really are, it doesn't matter whether you do things that everyone does, or do things differently. It's all about your OWN choice, not another person's.