we were friends up until she said i made her laugh because i told her that someone in my family died i got mad as hell and cryed because me and the woman who died were very close anyways i told her i could never forgvie her for that and dont want to be friends anymore so we stoped talking well my mom saw her the other night and she asked about me and said she had to come see me my mom told her it was up to me i still have not forgave her and dont know if i can should i be friends with her again and forgive her i forgave my ex"s for something he did that is the thing my mom dose not want me talking to my ex:s but said it was up to me if i talk to her or not not fair in my book i am 30 years old long story anyways if i can get past my exs and forgave him should i her not sure i can get past what she did throw thanks for the help.
2007-07-30 14:30:39 · 8 answers · asked by betty m 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yes you should forgive her everyone deserves a chance
2007-07-30 14:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset too. Obviously she still thinks about you -
by asking your Mom. I would still forgive her. In the Scriptures
it says that you should forgive 70 X 7 - it's in the NT. I know
that will be hard. But if it's been awhile, you have to move on.
Just tell her you forgive her, but if you don't want a relationship
make that clear also. God will hold you accountable for not
forgiving her - trust me. I have been there! And if you just
cannot stand the sight of her - give it time. Ask God to heal
your heart and give you peace, because it is He who judges -
not you, not me, just Him. I am 52 & I deal with people all
the time who do stuff to me and laugh in my face. But I cannot
judge - it says "Judge not lest ye be judged" in the NT. We
must live our lives in peace, not in turmoil.
If you have not asked Jesus into your heart - do it now and
you will see those feelings melt away....
This is the best advice I can give you.
2007-07-30 21:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow- that was heratless of your friend. But its strange, I don't know if you've ever heard this but some people don't cope with embarassment / sudden bad news well and react wrong emotionally- like laughing at a funeral. It is quite opssible this is her problem- however SHE should addresss her behaviour and apologise to you mate. Before you forgive her, maybe call her up and explain how she hurt you and if she doesn't offer up an apology- drop her.
2007-07-30 21:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by Renesme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've gone through a similar situation, and what I realized was that I can forgive a person without befriending them. If you want to be friends with her, then that's fine, but you're not obligated to be friends. Maybe it's best to move on with your life....sounds like you've been doing fine without her thusfar.
2007-07-30 21:38:28 · answer #4 · answered by it's_love 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be her friend. No one laughs when someone's family dies. But it's up to you. You do have to make the choice on your own. It's a very personal thing.
2007-07-30 21:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by Ali 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People change as they grow up. Give her a second chance. If she disappoints you again say "BuhBye"!
2007-07-30 21:34:44 · answer #6 · answered by Crazy_Fool 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hear what she has to say then decide from there if u want to be her friend again
2007-07-30 21:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by onlyonepanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so what's your question again? r u just sharing ur
pain? it's ok, we all have it.
2007-07-30 21:33:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋