Is it a mid-life crisis? Is it just reality that we are not care free, living life by the seat of your pants mode?
2007-07-30 14:10:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
definitely not where I figured I would be. Not a midlife crisis at all just not real happy with some of the choices I have made along the way.
2007-07-30 14:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by Tahavath 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly did not plan to be a single parent with five children and a grandmother by the time I turned 40. However, that did not begin to make me ponder about my life choices until I turned 60.
I've been fairly content with my life. It's just knowing me and the way I am now, maybe I could have done something more soul satisfying. But, when I think about it, I was not mature enough during those years to do what needed to be done to get to where I think I would like to be now.
It's all perception and maturity.
I will tell you men...don't make the mistake of trading your 40-year-old wife in on two 20-year-olds. You don't have the stamina to keep up either mentally or physically. Remember the woman who stood by your side all those years helping you become what you are today will still be there for you when your teeth are store-bought and you are wearing Depends.
2007-07-30 21:24:40 · answer #2 · answered by Blue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hell, I'm 20 and I don't even feel like I'm living a life I had planned for myself. I would hate to see myself at 40! My Mom is 50 and struggles with depression, so I'm pretty sure it's genetic and I will have some of her same behaviors when I reach her age.
Perhaps you feel this way because you haven't achieved enough goals or challenged yourself in any way. Try making a list of your goals and/or things you have always wanted to do and each week, cross one off and add something new to the list.
Also try to make time for friends and have girl time. At any age, this type of bonding is crucial to our mental health.
Is there a special man in your life? If not, find one. My fiance continually replenishes my faith in life and love.
Good luck.
2007-07-30 21:21:25 · answer #3 · answered by Desiree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What, you had grace enough not to have a crisis until middle age? Lucky you. I had no plans, only wants and uncertainty about achieving them. That is something you earn from experience.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erick_Erickson
The Erikson life-stage virtues, in the order of the stages in which they may be acquired, are:
hope
will
purpose
competence
fidelity
love (in intimate relationships, work and family)
caring
wisdom
2007-07-30 21:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by Psyengine 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow...you got me with that one...here I am...44...sitting at a desk in the living room answering questions from people I have never and probably will never meet...sipping on club soda with lime and basically wasting a beautiful evening...
Midlife crisis? My life is actually pretty good...I have a great husband, a beautiful daughter...a cute dog....
I guess though it isn't what I planned, and I am in major transition right now. ...(no job, no house...ect...)....I have a pretty good life...
My health is good...my family loves me...and each other...I have people to support me....
No...Life is good....no midlife crisis for me....
Thanks for the wake up call...I think I will go outside and talk to the neighbors or something.
2007-07-30 21:20:01 · answer #5 · answered by mizmead 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not the life I had planned but so are alot of other things not what I planned. I am happy with my life since there are many people who never even made it to 40.
2007-07-30 21:49:57 · answer #6 · answered by mommymanic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh god, i am in my 30"s and i know this soooooooooo not the life i planned for myself. I feel like i have failed, but i am still trying and i optimistic that one i get over these obstacle sin my life now, that i should have the life i would love to have. sorr, i know u said 40"s
2007-07-30 21:18:09 · answer #7 · answered by kira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not where I thought I would be, or where others expected me to be. Instead of advancing my career, I have taken a lot of time off to care for my invalid mother. I know it's the right thing to do, and I would feel awful if I didn't do it, but I'm still a big disappointment to myself.
2007-07-30 21:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by Captain Atom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think this must be normal...I'm gonna call it normal anyway. I went threw this too at the turn of 40. Where have I been and where am I going. What did I do about it? Not a darn thing...just relaxed...thats all. :)
2007-07-30 21:16:19 · answer #9 · answered by Frais 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really..things changed and so did direction.
But I am retiring at 55..whether or not I can afford to or not..and that's final. 11 more years to go.
2007-07-30 21:19:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋