Ok so me and my ex broke up like 2 months ago, and now we havent spoken for a week coz we had this big fight coz she started dating some1 else even tho she said she still has feelings for me and doesnt even like this other person...but she doesnt want to get back with me even tho she still likes me due to the fact that we are both girls and we are both bi...so i was thinking of suggesting an open relationship? but im not sure because im kinda da jelouse type...well when i really like some1 i am..and i really like this girl and i hate the thought of her with other people..but now that we've been broken up for a while i do still wana be with her but i guess its not that strong so an open relationship might just be perfect for us in this situation..im just not sure? whos been or is in a open relationship and how do u and ur partner deal with it? do u tell eachother if u hook up with some1 else? how does it really work?
Some advice would be appriciated...thanx :)
2007-07-30 13:54:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Open relationships only work when both partners are honest with each other about their actions, words, and emotions. The relationships are "open" in that we are free to see/sleep with/love others but they are most "open" because we trust each other enough to say when and why we feel jealous or unsatisfied or, really, anything else.
Open relationships are more about trust, honesty, and communication than anything else. Most times you don't even want to be with anyone other than the one person you care most about. Think about that. If you really do want to be with others, if your SO does, more often than not, what does that say? Are you willing to talk to each other about it and recognize each others' feelings?
They aren't, in any way, easier than traditional relationships. Harder, more often, even.
Open relationships really aren't a great idea for most people. It really does take a lot to trust both yourself and someone else that much. I have dated guys I wouldn't ever consider an open relationship with simply because it's just not something they could be comfortable with. And I really don't mean that to say open relationships are better or worse than anything else.
You just need to consider what you need for you. It does sound to me like you need to find someone who feels more toward you like you do toward her.
2007-08-01 00:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by ophelliaz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a "open" relationship twice. Once shortly after high school and once a year after that relationship ended. It's very complex and at the same time very simple. It get complex because all three people(or four) need to like each other and be completely honest and trusting(read no funny business). If not, then things just won't work no matter how hard you work on the relationship. It's simple because once you've found your other partner/s, and you've got the relationship going, it just gets better from there! Yes, it STILL takes some work on everyone's part, yet it's completely worth it too!
2007-07-30 21:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open relationships are difficult. My husband and I have an open relationship, and have been married for ten years.
For my own part, it took me a while to get past my jealous nature. Once I got over it, things worked out great.
You have to be able to figure out the difference between love and lust. I love my husband with all of my heart and soul, and will grow old with him. He's my soul mate. I also know that I'm not the sort of person who can be in a monogamous relationship.
I know plenty of married couples, and unmarried couples who do well in open relationships. I've not met many homosexual couples, so I can't help you there.
With regard to your relationship specifically, it sounds as though there are a lot of unanswered questions. I am not sure that either of you could handle seeing other people while maintaining a secure reltionship.
2007-07-30 21:34:01 · answer #3 · answered by Rappel_Welch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open relationships only work when both partners are not jealous and possessive.
No offense to anybody, this is just my experience: I have never known a woman/woman couple who could handle an open relationship. I have known quite a few male/male couples who did.
Good luck with whatever y'all decide.
2007-07-30 21:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by Acorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some feeling left over for each another?
actually would said that u r not jealous but think too much...
take it easy... in any relationship, gay, str8 whatever, if you cannot get a 100% trust and faithful from ur another half, treat it as an open relationship
for me, i'll tell my man everything, and answered everything he ask with 100% truth, he told me he did the same too, but somehow i smell something fishy... so i still dun serious over everything he told me...
that is if u love some one, give and take, also accept what he is... and please be easy on everything...
hope that help,
cheer~
2007-07-31 11:16:29 · answer #5 · answered by Kordal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hook up with her sister!
2007-07-30 20:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by Eduardo the flying squirrel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋