Seriously, I wanted to believe that the common stigma associated with marriage was all a myth, but now I'm living it. I really do love my wife, but what the hell prompts her to be so damn annoying? Why does this happen so much in marriages?
2007-07-30 13:33:14 · 15 answers · asked by i_is_tiger_woods 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, so far thanks for all the responses. I appreciate the honesty and such, and don't worry about offending me or making me upset because I am looking for constructive criticism. Sometimes, the truth hurts and that's what it takes. Anyway, one answer noted the aspect of employment. I am the one working and she is not...and I still have a few personal issues from the past that I am working to resolve. I try to take her out as much as time permits, but my priorities are set to handling my issues so we can BOTH reap the benefits. What annoys me about her is that she does not seem to understand this. I explain it as easily and as honestly as possible, but it doesn't seem to register. I want this to work, and I have every intent of staying with her forever, but I wish she could understand that I am working my *** off to make sure that there will be a day where I can just lay in bed with her all day without having to worry about going to work. I want her to have it all, that's all.
2007-07-30 16:13:46 · update #1
Marriage is hard work for the first 2-3 years then it starts to level out for 1-3 years and it recycles over and over.
Marriages fail because people give up too easily. It has its ups and downs, but it is the most wonderful thing to have if with the right person.
Me, I have been divorced for 10 years and have not remarried because I am too picky.
2007-07-30 13:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Helifino!...I am a female but have the same problem as you. I love my husband but there are these issues that drives me crazy. I try to take one day at a time. Sometimes I love him, sometimes I don't know, sometimes I despise him. It all isn't a bed of roses. It's just not as you see in the movies. It's a lot of ups and downs and trying. A lot of forgiving and veiwing things in a different perspective. I really don't have a good answer...lol....But, just know your not alone.
2007-07-30 14:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by delorisjp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first got with my husband, I was the one that wasn't very affectionate. I was never the type of girl that wanted to hold hands while walking through a store or sneak kisses in at a stoplight. I didn't show it hardly at all through actual affection. Yes, I included him in my day-to-day happenings. I talked to him frequently and did say the "I love you" after he would say it, but I wasn't good at initiating it. He finally just sat me down and told me, "Hey, I love you and how you are, but it would really mean a lot to me if you were more affectionate. I would absolutely love it if you would take the initiative and SHOW me how you feel.....kiss me once in a while, grab my hand while we are walking or randomly be affectionate." While it did take a while to get used to being more affectionate, I did. And now, I truly enjoy it and love it. I love that we still sneak kisses in whenever the feeling hits. I love that we hold hands while driving or walking down the street. Before-yes, he was the "affectionate" one, but now, I think I may be the more affectionate one. If not, we are at the very least tied on it. Talk to your husband and give him time to really get used to it. It may take a few months or even a year or two to really get used to and comfortable with it. Don't get mad when he may take a step back, but just gently remind him. And also, when he does do something that you like (maybe randomly tells you he loves you or kisses you out of the blue) tell him right there that you love it when he does that. Emphasize to him how much you love it and he will keep doing it. Men are just like dogs in a way-if you keep telling him that he is a "good boy" and reward him with happiness/smiles/or whatever, he will do it more and more. When he does something wrong, you don't necessarily need to yell and get mad, just be firm about what you are expecting and wanting and eventually he will get the hint.
2016-05-18 01:37:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is she doing that you find annoying? I have noticed that when people marry the women take it more serious than men. Women go to work,come home and continue to work while men go to work, come home and want to play. Hang out with there friends etc. When their wives ask them to do any form of work around the house they start thinking of their wives as bitches, nags,annoying. If men would take their roles as a husband more seriously and do their household chores without being asked and before they hang out with the guys life at home might be more pleasant. I'm not saying this is what your doing. I'm just making an observation.
2007-07-30 13:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by Aunt Doobie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all women and men think, act, react, handle situations differently, we are just the opposite of you. we complete you. You did not explain when she get annoying, or is she being annoying for no reason. Listen is you really take the time to try to understand why women do the things they do, you may understand some things, but women are women, talk to her and find out what makes her tick, ya gotta love em.
2007-07-30 15:49:44 · answer #5 · answered by pattycake046 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Selfishness...that's basically it. Instead of going into a marriage with the idea that I'm going to make life as good as I can for this person that I love, it all becomes about "me". To fully commit to a mate, there has to be a little self denial. And, if you can't do that when it's only you and your spouse, then you don't even want to think about bringing children into the mix.
2007-07-30 13:41:10 · answer #6 · answered by Jay D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Firstly if you have nothing annoying your wife about you and er almost perfect? let her know exactly what it is annoying you about her.
As long as your wife has plenty of time for herself and plenty of money to do just as she wants and someone to cook for and of course clean for her and well be a fantastic friend and partner she should not mind you letting her know what is bothering you should she. Marriage is a two way street with communication of the utmost. List all the great things about her and shut the door to your mind on the not so great things and thank God for her.............................
2007-07-30 14:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by Phyl. C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think my husband can be so dam annoying and mostly I am not happy in my marriage because my husband is selfish..and self centred...maybe like me you have issues to sort out or sometimes we just marry the wrong ppl make the same mistakes as our parents or punish our self....maybe it is you who needs to be less selfish and more fun.
2007-07-30 13:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey you LIVE with her! Its not like back when you guys had dates and didnt have to deal with her nagging. She couldnt boss you around before now she does. Before all you probly saw was her romantic side now shes like a wifeyzilla! Marrige is tuff but try to romance her, take her out to eat, or a picnic all a woman needs is some romance she she should be fine
2007-07-30 13:41:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Selfishness.
2007-07-30 14:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋