and takes me to expensive hotels, we've been in six diffferent countries buy me expensive clothes name it, i'm married but we don't stay together with my husband because of his work so he comes home once in 6 months or even a year.now i lied to this guy that i divorced with my husband this is too much for me i really love my husband so much but again , this guy spoils me with material things more than my husband. He even bought me a beautiful car and now he took me to his lawyer 2 months ago he wants 2 buy me a house, i know he really loves but unfortunately i don't but i'm enjoying his money i'm
sorry guys. So i lied to my husband about the car now i don't know if i should take the house?he is divorced and he said if he could ever marry again it will be me he's 30 years older than me but that's not an issue, what shud i do pls. I need help this is not a joke.Anything i ask from this man he does it he requsted to meet up with my family but i cant my mum will kill me.pls help me .
2007-07-30 12:04:59 · 13 answers · asked by 2q2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Americans will complain more about the age diffence than anything else here.
I think you should just tell this man what you've told us.
you're only with him cause you never see your husband.
would your husband not understand you seeing someone else when you only see him practicaly twice a year ??
he's got to be one slow caterpillar not to cotton on you're seeing some one.
a lot of this problem belongs to the minister. I'm not even gonna go into the vocation issue , Ill leave that to the holier than thou americans.
suffice to say, he'll never divorce and this will probly all come out to the end of his office, money, marriage and you'll walk away smelling like roses, but he made his own bed so,,,,
love to see what you look like.
I think you are a good person, most people wouldn't have a conscience bout this esp considering the circumstances.
I think your hubby needs professional help for letting you be in such a vulnerable position.
I realy don't blame you at all for any of this sweetie
and remember, you've got the upper hand over both men, so don't get sucked into guilt trips by them.
they both dreamers who don't live in the real world.
2007-07-30 12:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by wompey c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look wanting good things and being able to have some one get them for you is not a bad thing but you have to think of that mans feelings and how if you dint love him how it will hurt him, Some people can only take so much and than they break down dint hurt this mans feelings just to get material things cause once he finds out you dint like him how he likes you than you will be left with all those things yeah but you will also be hurt cuz you may have lost something good for you love is a very strong word and people say it just to do it it don't really mean anything unless you have the right person and what about your husband if he finds out you will be looking so dumb sorry. Dont use people cuz WHAT GOES AROUND CUMS AROUND
2007-07-30 12:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by chockream 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be ashamed of yourself. You are leading this minister on to believe that you are divorced. Do you think he would go against Gods commandants for you he's a minister not just an everyday Joe. I think that you have put him in a place that he would have not dared cross knowing the truth. You need to tell all involved the truth and grow up. You should not be about a new car, a new house. He should have been giving them to someone who deserves them not you.
2007-07-30 12:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by Too-hot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is a bigger picture hear. 1st and for most, I think you need to ask yourself if you love your husband? And if your relationship is worth holding onto forever.
If it's not then maybe you are letting a really good opportunity pass you by. But you need to end thing with your husband fair and square. Guilt can eat you ALIVE! You will wish you played it smart.
If your husband is worth keeping then you need to wake up GIRL! Money comes and goes and so dose house. How are you going to feel in when you are a old women looking into your husbands eyes knowing all the unloyaty and betrail you have done to him. IT WILL EAT YOU ALIVE! TRUST ME!
2007-07-30 12:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by janel m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are a bad influence on young women. For years, us good women have been trying to tell men that it's not about the material things in life...it's who you share them with.
There's not a man alive who could buy me something to make me do that to my husband. My husband even tries to make up with me when we argue by buying me things...I don't accept them. I tell him, NO, we have to talk about this and work it out...the material things in life...NOT WHAT MATTERS. You should divorce your husband and marry this SO-CALLED MINISTER...what a joke he is. The Minister needs to stop going to church cuz obvioulsy he doesn't know the 10 commandments...and you, well your a materialistic tramp.
2007-07-30 12:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by KPG 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This does not have the ring of truth to it. Who exactly are you trying to get a rise out of? The religious people who will be outraged that you're taking advantage of a minister? The self-righteous (overlapping with religious) who will be offended that you're carrying on an affair? The ministers (a subset of religious) who will want to know why THEY aren't pulling in the big bucks?
Come on now.
2007-07-30 12:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by snoopy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is buying your love, he has nothing to offer but money? Honey, it is nice, but think. he may not be able to provide you with all that for some reason because you never know! Today he has money, but tomorrow something changes and that's' it. You will loose your family and all the nice things he gives you. There are no money can buy love happiness and family.
2007-07-30 12:24:01 · answer #7 · answered by GAYANA A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who do you love? Priest or your husband? You need to decide what you are going to do. If you are going to stay with your husband you need to stop the contact with this guy. It takes two to be in a marriage. Doesn't seem like either of you are even trying to keep your marriage. If you are out of love with your husband. You need to file for divorce. This isn't fair for your husband or the other guy. In any case, what you did is wrong very very wrong. I feel sorry for your husband.
2007-07-30 12:12:29 · answer #8 · answered by C007 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
don't you think you should have thought about the consequences of doing al this. If you truly loved your husband you wouldn't continue to do this behind his back. You need to file for divorce before things get out of hand.
2007-07-30 12:10:01 · answer #9 · answered by Wishmaster 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you really want my advice you will stop the affair immediately. You should not be having an affair if you are married.
2007-07-30 12:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋