It seems like our tolerance, patience, dedication to the family , peaceful nature is misunderstood as being a doormat.
2007-07-30 11:57:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I am also Asian . I do things for my husband but I don't do them because I fear him or think of myself as lower status than him. I do such things because I'm happy when I do.
2007-07-30 18:04:10 · update #1
As well as to create an atmosphere of peace and harmony.
2007-07-30 18:05:36 · update #2
But in almost all decisions, my husband consults me for my opinions and judgment.
2007-07-30 18:08:19 · update #3
I can only speak for myself but not for all Asian women. You might call it subservient. To me it is a matter of being accomodating, understanding, supporting, committed, supportive and responsible in a marriage.
If my husband tried to treat me as a doormat or bow to him and be disrespectful, i would make sure he regretted it for as long as he could remember ... lol. Never never to take for granted. I do what i do what is called labor of love and i have to enjoy doing it.
2007-07-31 09:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by Sal SR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes..asian women are perceived by many to be subservient/ passive. But like, with all generalisations- the view is exaggerated. Personally speaking, i think it's good to maintain 'tolerance, patience, dedication & a peaceful nature' - so long as it's practiced by both parties. Many asian women these days, know what they want and that's a balanced life where everything including chores, are shared!
2007-07-30 20:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by shaani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Selfish people view people who give and take as weak/doormats, etc. From my experience with Asian women (platonic and Romantic) it's also a complete myth. While my friends/girlfriend may not have been into public conflict, in private they had no problem with it. Lots of non-Asians only see the in public side, don't understand about "face", and just assume they're quiet little geishas or whatever. I can guarantee any guy who gets involved with an Asian woman because he thinks he'll have someone subservient a huge surprise.
2007-07-30 19:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by Rossonero NorCal SFECU 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is kinda sad but no. I think it is in their blood and it is very hard to change. When they follow traditional ways, they are submissive to Asian men and when they are americanized, they act strongly to Asian men, but still too submissive to white men. I am not saying that all Asian women are like that, but many are. I've seen many examples of this on the street and also on Yahoo.
One more thing: Everyone has their own standards and views when it comes to deciding whether certain acts are dedication to the family or being subservient. For example, when I went to a Chinese restaurant one day, I saw an Asian women carrying food for her white husband. While she was making two trips to get her own food and her busband's, he was just sitting at the table watching her. I'd call this subservient because her husband was capable of getting his own food, but the Asian wife subserviently decided to do it for him. But I know that some people will disagree with me and call it dedication, patience or tolerance to her family.
2007-07-30 19:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Really and truly... I don't think many people think about it one way or another. I certainly don't and neither do my friends.
2007-07-30 19:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes i do
2007-07-30 19:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋