After 8 years of living together my partner (at the time) decided to move out. Now 3 years later his family (mother, father and sister) found out I am engaged to be married to another person, they wrote me a letter letting me know they want to stay in touch, still care about us (my daughter and I) and would also like to know why we split. I guess like in any situation I feel that I was right and he was wrong.
I do not want to give them grief, I would like for them to stay close to my daughter; however now that I’m faced with a situation that I can’t handle by myself anymore I wish someone could smack some sense into my ex’s head and I think if his parents can’t do it… no one can.
I was left with all the bills because they were under my name and had to file for bankruptcy; I never filled for child support or custody but I’m afraid I have no choice. I’m currently working 24-7 with my parents building a new company and not making enough money.
2007-07-30 11:56:24 · 12 answers · asked by chilanga26lasvegas 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If they are your daughter's grandparents, she needs a relationship with them so it would be good to get together with them and talk. You don't have to give them all the gory details about why you broke it off but you can give them some history. I'm sure they know more about their son than you think and your news wouldn't be new to them. But they should know your situation. They are asking to be part of your life still and I think that sounds like a genuine offer and it seems you need all the support you can get.
2007-07-30 12:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let them know that you would like to stay in touch. If they do NOT know about the bankruptcy, I would definately run off some copies of your paperwork, that way you have the dates of you TWO being together, and write them a letter letting them know exactly what happened in the nicest way possible without A** Kissing, I know it is hard, i have a husband whom has put me through some crap, and he has been in Trouble most of his life, although when it comes to his Mother, he can practically do NO wrong. This year he finally came out with the truth about a very tragic situation that just about took my LIFE almost 6 yrs. ago, and he is the one who caused it. Just stand up for you, because in the end...., IF it's not for you, you cannot take care of your daughter. Good Luck.
2007-07-30 19:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by john's brat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write them a letter expressing your thanks for their wanting to stay in touch and the fact they care about you two. Tell them also about your wish for them to be close to their grand-daughter, then ease into some of the smaller details of "why" you split up, leaving the larger issues for a later conversation if they press the issue, which they probably will as more contact evolves. By that time they will be prepared for what you may have to say.
2007-07-30 19:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by rheabop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well yes, they may have some influence on getting him to pay child support. You definitely need to go through the filing of a child support order. I know you don't think you have the time or money but there are agencys in every county that will file for you for free or by your income. Good luck on your brighter future.
2007-07-30 19:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the reason you two broke up doesn't involve them and you don't see any real benefit in telling them, I would just say that the two of you had your differences and were better off not together anymore, and just leave it at that. I doubt that your ex's family members would be able to change him. People have to want to change. Good luck!
2007-07-30 19:00:47 · answer #5 · answered by ~*Sweet Melissa*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I broke up with my boyfriend, his dad wanted to know why, I told him the truth. So what if the truth hurts. Tell them what happened, even about leaving you to pay all the bills just cause they were in your name. It don't hurt none to stay in contact with them either, that is their grand daughter (if I read that right). Just tell them the truth as to why you two broke up.
2007-07-30 19:36:53 · answer #6 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think in this situation,just come right out and tell them everything,,it makes a change for the ex's parents too be like this,keep in touch with them,tell them the financial mess he left you in,the best thing is to be straight with them,i wish you all the luck in the world,with your new buisness and all ,,xxxx
2007-07-30 19:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you and him were not meant to be. If they begin to pester you about it, ignore them. It really is none of their business. If your daughter is their granddaughter, you should let them see her, but that doesn't mean you have to discuss your personal life with them. Get married to the guy you are in love with and have a happy life.
2007-07-30 19:01:03 · answer #8 · answered by harleychic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would they ask you?
You should respond by saying "why would you like to know, didn't Joe tell you?"
If they pester you just say it is not about being right or wrong, it was the best decision for your daughter's welfare.
Sheesh, what drama...good luck!!!!!!
2007-07-30 19:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell them that things just didn't work out between the two of you. You don't have to go into detail about what he did post-relationship, but you can tell him that he was very hurtful to you and that you had to work to rebuild your life. If they press the issue, tell them you're not comfortable talking to them about it.
2007-07-30 18:59:41 · answer #10 · answered by Beth 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋